Oh boy! I’m doing it! I’m digging deep into Little Things again! Even though it makes you think about relationships and how we hurt each other and all kinds of things!
This is interesting structure. Last season was all about long distance, many episode showing them saying good-bye, building separate lives, then the growing pains of getting back together. But this season, we start at the reunion and zip past the time apart in a few quick flashbacks.
Which, based on the conversation, is how it felt for them this time. Yes, they missed each other, but there wasn’t that drama and longing. It was easy to just let the time apart keep spinning out. One thing this show has always done well is placing physical affection in it’s proper place. Yes, they live together. Yes, they have sex. Yes, they enjoy holding hands and touching each other and so on. But that’s just one part of the relationship. Being separated for over a year, the one piece that is absolutely missing is physical intimacy. And that’s barely touched on in this episode. It’s the emotional closeness, the sharing deep thoughts, the feeling complete when together, that is what was their missing piece.
That feels true to me based on couples I have known. It’s not like physical intimacy stops being important, but the more time you are together, the more precious all the other aspects of the relationship become. The secrets only the other person knows, the ability to fully open up and trust each other, the history, that is something you can’t have with anyone else.
Anyway, this episode starts with an almost missed connection, that works out fine. Which sort of sets the tone. Yes, her bus was early and he overslept. Yes, they both had their own rickshaws. But it’s no big deal, they talk and get back together. Not everything has to be a big deal. And their reunion isn’t a big deal either. They fit together like two pieces of a puzzle, poof, no stress or strain or anything.
But there are foreshadowings of later problems. Dhruv was very fulfilled living and working overseas. Kavya struggled to fit back into her parents’ life in their suburb and now is preparing to move back to Bombay to be with Dhruv. They are giving up things to be together, Kavya her life with her family and Dhruv his freedom to persue his career where ever it takes him. Right now, in this episode, it barely comes up. Instead they have to process the experience of being apart and now being back together. But it is there, in the background.
I think what this episode is establishing is that, during their time apart, they went on individual journeys that brought them to a place of wanting to commit to their life together. Those journeys did not involve the other person, but over the rest of this season, they will slowly tell the other person what happened to them, why they reached this place on their own.
Episode 2: Family
Something that has been simmering since the second season and even more last season is the difference between their two families. Kavya’s parents still treat her as a little kid sometime, can be difficult to deal with, etc. But ultimately they are a happy family and a good couple that can be a model for how Kavya and Dhruv want to be. On the other hand, Dhruv’s parents are not good models. They don’t know how to be good to others, if that makes sense. They call Dhruv in order to ask him to ask Kavya to help a relative get into a school. First, they shouldn’t be putting the needs of their relative above everyone else. Second, they shouldn’t be putting this pressure on their son. And third, they should understand the pressure they are putting on their son’s relationship! But none of that occurs to them. People are there to be used, their relative is using them, they are using their son, and of course their son will have no problem using his girlfriend.
That’s what this episode is about. Kavya is making Dhruv experience her family vacation version, a silly old-fashioned happy tour. And yes, it isn’t the kind of thing the two of them would normally do. But on the other hand, there is nothing actively wrong with it. It’s not toxic, it’s a fun sort of vacation from their normal life. Kavya’s childhood and background informs who she is, gives her a different view of the world, and lets her grow past it if she wants or return to it when she wants. That’s what childhood and family should be. Not all of you, but part of you.
And then there is Dhruv. Things go wrong, and all of a sudden he is angry and lashing out. And then realizes, that is what his family does. When things go wrong, they lash out at each other. They demand each other do what they want, not what the other wants. Dhruv is far far from his background, he has grown into a good man and a good boyfriend in a way his father never was. But it is a constant struggle, he has to constantly watch himself not to slide backwards. While for Kavya, going backwards is a little vacation from herself that she can leave at any time.
Okay, that’s all I got on those two eps! Now y’all discuss what I missed!