Kajol and Karan Are Breaking My Heart

NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!  New An Unsuitable Boy quotes leaked, confirming that Karan and Kajol are officially over!!!!!!  My heart is BROKEN!!!!

Let me see if I can paste together the bits that came out in a coherent fashion:

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I am HEARTBROKEN!!!!  I loved their friendship.  It felt a little different than Karan’s other friendships.

To put it in Karan Johar Movie terms, it feels like his friendship with Shahrukh is more like Ranbir to Anushka in ADHM  or Kajol to Shahrukh in KKHH.  Not necessarily that he is in love with him, but that there are bigger deeper more complicated emotions messing with the friendship.

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(Karan and Shahrukh)

With Alia and Siddharth and Varun and Ayan Mukherjee and Ranbir and all the others, it feels more like Salman to Baby Anjali in KKHH, or Shahrukh to Kareena in K3G.  He sees them as children, wants to protect them, enjoys spending time with them, but can never really let himself go because he has to put their needs ahead of his own.

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(Karan and Alia)

And then his friendship with dozens of other people in the industry is more like, oh, Kareena and her Coven in K3G.  Shared jokes, good times, but never let them see below the surface.

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(Karan and Kareena, Priyanka, Manish Malhotra, etc. etc.)

But with Kajol, that was more like Anushka to Ranbir (not the other way around) in ADHM. Not “Pyar Dosti Hai” (love is friendship), but “Dosti Hai Sukoon” (friendship is peace).  She always told him the truth, his first memory of her is coming up to him at a party when he was 15 and making fun of what he was wearing.  She was there for him in his first movie, even before that, she was there on the first movie he even assisted in.  In his very superficial world, she was someone who kept him grounded and gave him his reality checks.  And now that is gone!  And I am SO SORRY!

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(Kajol and Karan)


As to why it is gone, obviously Karan’s version is only half the story.  I certainly believe that he believes it, I don’t buy the whole “he’s only doing it to sell books!” version.  Just like I don’t buy the whole “they are only doing —— to promote their movie!” argument.  Because I do believe that even celebrities are ultimately human, not demonic strange beings with no personal lives.  Karan Johar isn’t going to completely torpedo a relationship that has lasted 25 years just to sell books.  But he would report on a relationship he feels was already destroyed in a forum where he can tell his version of the story.


And what’s the other side?  Well, firstly, poor Kajol!  Married to this guy who has a habit of not “playing the game”.  In some ways that’s good for her, she is known to be a bit difficult herself, reluctant to give interviews, with only a small circle of friends, she probably likes being married to someone who won’t drag her to an industry party every night and insist on joint interviews once a month.  But on the other hand, he is systematically destroying that small circle she did have.  He sued Yash Raj over the Son of Sardaar and Jab Tak Hain Jaan release dates, sabotaging that relationship which had lasted generations (her mother worked with Aditya’s father).  And now he has cut Karan out of her life.  And, Karan implies, with him might also go Manish Malhotra, another of her closest friends.

And all of this is because Kajol is being dragged along in a fight her husband is having on her behalf, but without consulting her.  Here is the best-possible-version being spread by the Devgn camp:

“Karan is doing this just to sell his book. The whole industry knows that Karan bitches about people behind their back. Even Shah Rukh Khan was upset with Karan because of his comments against Priyanka Chopra. Two years ago at a party, Karan indulged in really loose talk about Kajol in front of an A-list actor. That actor, in turn, told Ajay Devgn about it. Ajay even asked that actor why, despite being Karan’s friend, is he telling him about it. The actor said that if Karan could badmouth Kajol in front of him, he could also gossip about him someday. Ajay was obviously furious – any man would be if his wife was talked about in such light. So he called Karan and abused him on the phone. He told Karan that ‘you can say what you wish about my film but don’t talk about my wife and family.’”

Do you notice something about that story?  There’s Karan, and there’s Ajay, and there’s an “A-List actor”, but there’s no Kajol.  Or any woman at all, really.  This is all a men’s issue between men.  Even the other example, SRK supposedly getting mad at Karan was over Priyanka Chopra.  Not that she got mad herself, but SRK got mad on her behalf.  And that Karan’s comments were seen as an attack on Shahrukh, not Priyanka.

Forget the actual content of the story, focus on how it is being used as a defense by the Devgn team.  Karan is saying “my close friend Kajol hurt my feelings”.  The Devgn team is saying “Karan disrespected Ajay’s wife and a bunch of men got together and talked about it and decided Karan had to be stopped.”  This isn’t just a different version of the same story, this is a whole different story!

Karan is talking about something private and personal, someone who he thought he knew, who (more importantly) he thought knew him, broke his heart by believing he could do something completely unlike himself.  I know that feeling, that feeling of “if someone who knows me that well believes this lie, then do I even really know myself?  Does anyone know me?  Does anyone love me for who I really am?”

The Devgn team is talking about public issues.  Karan publically disrespected Ajay by insulting his wife, attacked his “honor”, so Ajay attacked back.  And, from that side of things, Kajol did nothing wrong.  I mean, what’s she supposed to do?  Publicly go against her husband?  Or, publicly support him and privately support her friend?  That’s not very good either.  If you put the public honor above the private relationship, than Kajol did the only thing possible.

But if you put this bond between them that began way back before either of them even had a public life above everything else, than Kajol did the worst thing possible.


For myself, I am always more of a “private relationship above public honor” kind of person.  And so I feel more for Karan.  But if I were someone who was more like Ajay, who felt like he barely had a foothold in this industry, who was only one generation removed from poverty and was willing to do whatever it took to protect his children from sliding back into that, who felt that his family circle was more important than anything else, then I could see the need to fight back.  And the need to ask your wife to be by your side fighting with you no matter who it hurts.

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(Ajay’s version of him and Kajol)


Oh well, at least Karan still has Twinkle.

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7 thoughts on “Kajol and Karan Are Breaking My Heart

    • Yeah, I am trying not to think that way. Because she is still going out in the world and being with other people and so on. It just feels like if her friendships get in the way of the success of their family company, Ajay’s okay with rolling right over them.

      Or, maybe 6 months from now Kajol leaves Ajay and goes to Karan and begs his forgiveness and they set up a household together. I would be fine with that too.

      On Fri, Jan 13, 2017 at 3:24 PM, dontcallitbollywood wrote:



    • I’m thinking the same thing. Ajay, who I do enjoy in his films, has a very controlling personality, I think. I’m not sure I even what to see Shivaay because it sounds kind of self-indulgent and I’ve heard weirdly misogynistic.

      Kajol always seemed like someone who wouldn’t put up with this kind of sh*t. But she also has an edge to her that beliest the whole India’s sweetheart thing. I always thought the same about Meg Ryan. Public personal and private reality are often far apart.

      I’m sad for Karan, but if those are some of the best excerpts from the memoir…I wish he had a much better ghost writer/editor. The writing is just awful in it’s whiney, confessional tone.


      • Having read the unauthorized Rekha bio, and the authorized Salman bio, and the strange Meena Kumari one from back in the 70s, this writing isn’t actually that bad! At least it’s straight first person, instead of randomly switching from first to omniscient.


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