Weekend WatchAlong: Daawat-E-Ishq! 7am Chicago Time!

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Yaaaaay, weekend WatchAlong! So happy to see y’all again!

Happy Sunday! I got my coffee, I got the movie pulled up, Im ready to go!

At 7am Chicago time I will put up an “And PLAY” comment and we will all keep chatting from there.

259 thoughts on “Weekend WatchAlong: Daawat-E-Ishq! 7am Chicago Time!”

      • The hamster on the other side of the country is thrilled to have some one awake at the same time he is! He is now rolling around the house in a ball as happy as a hamster could be.

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      • Why don’t you have milk????? What happened in your household? Surely the oldest is old enough to go acquire milk for the rest of you?

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        • The kids don’t want to be the last person to use the milk so they put the jug back into the fridge empty. But we live a block from the best little grocery store in existence. So I can send a kid out to get milk as soon as they wake up (or get it myself after 6 AM).

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    • I was just thinking something similar. How does Anupam Kher go from being completely sympathetic in one movie to being completely despicable in the next?!

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  15. I was explaining the dowry system to my boys’ friends who were sleeping over last night (in an attempt to get anyone to wake up at 5 and watch this with me). And by the end of the discussion my oldest’s 14 year old best friend decided that dowry’s are awesome! Which is kinda what you can expect from a 14 year old boy.

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    • I think they won’t find it so awesome once all the money goes to the family and nothing to the groom itself. I remember for my grandmother, she had given a good amount of dowry but it all went to my grandfather’s sister’s husband and get this they used to act more arrogant as if they helped with their marriage.

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      • the attitude of 14 year old boys is rarely thoughtfull. Sorry about your grandmother having to live with obnoxious relatives.

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        • My grandmother is a very calm, dispassionate and almost zen-like being. However the only thing that will get her riled up even now is if she hears about joint families and even for my mom she was very happy to hear my dad and her would live alone

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    • Ooooo, good point! I hadn’t thought about that before! We agree with her turning down Montu because his family is HORRIBLE, but her reason is the bad accent. On the other hand, Aditya wouldn’t have asked about “blue films” at a first meeting, and would have cheerfully accepted correction to his accept while Montu was gross and oaffended. So Pari thinks it’s the accent, but really it’s the attitude about being less educated and willing to take correction.

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      • I think she would’ve still had some initial reservations(remember his shirt and english she calls out at the end) but would’ve been won over by the food.

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  17. So here is what confuses me a bit about this movie. They are clearly Muslim. In Islam, usually Mahr (similar concept to a dowry) is given by the husband’s family to the wife.

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  18. Speaking of dowry, I just remembered an opposite story from my family. When my Great Uncle Al was courting my Great Aunt Francis, her mother made her give back ANY gift more than flowers, including a puppy. Which is a pretty firm and proper line of pre-marriage rules 🙂 Although I do worry about that poor puppy.

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  19. Hmmm. And now I am thinking, at first glance this guy is perfect based on all the superficial things she wants. But his family is TERRIBLE and his attitude turns out to be horrible too. So weirdly this film is about being open minded and accepting of people your parents pick for you becuase your own choices may be bad.

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    • I feel thats the wrong approach, she doesn’t have much experience with good educated guys because of the small dowry. So she thinks an educated guy will fix her problems because its something she doesn’t really meet.

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    • I think many people who work for American companies are trained in American accent and encouraged to continue speaking in that accent. And he might have the additional motive since he wants to move to America.

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      • Speaking as someone who occasionally has to have a business to business conversation with those India based companies, it is SO FRUSTRATING. I would far rather have a fluid conversation with them speaking normally, then feeling the effort on the other end of the line. Also, one of my coworkers grew up in Bombay, so it’s especially irritating when she is on the phone. Just speak Hindi to each other! Be happy! We won’t be angry!

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    • I can’t remember the background given in the movie but if he happened to have a teacher who spoke AMerican English he could have picked it up. That coupled with TV. And clearly they are both fascinated with America.

      I had a student in Germany who spoke English with this crazy New York City drawl. We could not figure out how she exactly got it, but she sure had it.

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  23. Ooo, also she is still focused on marriage as her future! America is possible, Kalamazoo is possible, all of that thanks to this one guy. Instead of thinking about how to get there on her own.

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  26. the way his parents come to this meeting with the list, I wonder if part of his plan to move to Kalamazoo was to find a bride before he left to pay for everything?

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  28. I’m also thinking about this from my no-dowry culture. I could see asking your in-laws for help to get through grad school, but it would be humiliating. And you would want to pay it back. On the other hand, if the family is really rich, the person you are marrying would have control of their own funds by the time they were old enough to get married, so it wouldn’t be weird to ask your rich husband/wife for money.

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    • It is humiliating plus that ‘help’ is there for your whole life. So your always in debt to your in-laws in some way or the other.

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  29. Margaret’s last comment made me think – wouldn’t it be cheaper to move to America then get married in India? Aren’t dowry’s usually more than the cost of a plane ticket and 1st and last months rent?

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    • Just did the conversion, and they are asking for almost $100,000. So I think it’s the MBA international tuition that they want covered. BOOOO, parents! Make your kid take out a loan!

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    • Yes, it would plus I do not understand how the mother lives in Jubilee Hills (one of the most expensive neighbourhood’s in Hyderabad) and then apparently had to mortage her jewellery and can’t afford to send their child to America. Why not drop the house in Jubilee Hills and then send the child?

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      • Maybe it’s a sign that the family is just super appearance focused? They have a house in the best area but can’t afford it, they are sending their son to America but need a dowry to pay for it.

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          • But if the house is already mortgaged to the hilt because of all the other things they think they need…I’ve definitely known families like that, especially in America!

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    • Dowries can be anything so unclear if they would be more or less than 2 plane tickets and 2 months rent. But yes, the groom could have eloped with Pari, but he is pathetic and would never stand up to his parents enough to do that.

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  31. Ignoring the whole con scheme for the moment, I think Pari finally switched from “there is a perfect boy who will make my life perfect” to “I’m gonna get what I want for myself on my own” because she FOUND the perfect boy, and he turned out to be horrible, so that was a wake up of never counting on marriage to fix her life again.

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  34. This is such a lovely and natural way to get Anupam on board. He just needs to have a moment of seeing how fragile their life is to be ready to do whatever it takes to give her some security.

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  37. This is the part of the movie where every Pari outfit makes me go “this is my favorite!” And then I see the next one and like it even more.

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  41. The way the Hyderabadi accent never drops even for ‘Sania’ who grew up in Dubai (generally the hindi accent there is more Punjabi/Pakistani)

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    • I always joke that my Urdu is better than my Hindi. Even when I lived in India everyone in Mumbai always knew I was not from there as soon as I spoke Hindi because I did not have the Bombay slang!

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  43. I’m stuck on that comment from adh about how he has the same accent as Montu! It’s true, he does, but he is cheerfully aware of his limitations, and charming with it, having something nice to say to all the international guests.

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    • I think from some later comments int he film it sounds like he has a hard time even getting a bride to consider him because of the lack of education and so on, so he’s excited to even have an appointment. And then of course the arm wrestling over the bill is just WAY too charming.

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  47. I feel major abbas and colonel abbas wouldn’t be such a bad option for Parineeti in normal scenarios because the dowry isn’t so bad (dowry is always bad but we’re looking at dowry if its a given)

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  49. I had almost forgotten that in anticipation of this movie, last night, I ordered chicken 65, so I can have it this morning with salty lassi!

    Margaret — I can already see you shaking your head in disapproval but you are wrong! Salty lassi > Sweet lassi!

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