Let’s Wildly Gossip and Make Up Stories About People We Don’t Know! What’s Up With Ayan-Ranbir-Alia?

Gossip is bad, and we shouldn’t make assumptions about people we don’t know, and of course none of this matters as much as stuff that happens in “real” life. But, on the other hand, isn’t it fun?

Ayan Mukherjee is Kajol’s first cousin, and part of “the” Mukherjees, the ones who founded Filmistan studio and stuff. When he was a 21 year old kid who had assisted on one film, he met Karan Johar at a gym and introduced himself, and then sent a text message to follow up which was so eloquent and beautiful that Karan reached out to him and offered him an entry level job at Dharma with the potential of becoming a Dharma director in future. Ayan worked as an AD, and then wrote Wake Up Sid, Karan agreed to produce it, and they brought in Ranbir to star. This was in 2008, Ayan was 25 and so was Ranbir. Ranbir had just been launched and had his first hit film, and was also widely rumored to have been dating his first co-star Sonam, and currently dating his new co-star Deepika.

Starting with the Wake Up Sid promotions, it became obvious that Ranbir-Ayan were more than the usual “friends during filming” kind of relationship. They went everywhere together, and everyone just accepted that as a given, from the media to their families to their significant others. Oh, and also Wake Up Sid was immediately obviously brilliant both for Ayan’s writing/directing and Ranbir’s performance, so the creator-muse relationship was also accepted.

Even Ranbir’s Dad is joking about their closeness!

Ayan’s gay, that’s just common knowledge and commonly accepted. So no one expects him to have a girlfriend. But Ranbir has had a whole string of girlfriends, while also being closer to Ayan than anyone else. They’ve been together over 10 years now and made 2 movies plus the currently forever in production Brahmastra, but also done things like vacationed together, gone to parties together, and so on and so forth.

And latest news, Alia posted some vacation photos of her and Ranbir…and Ayan. Which is just a bit odd! It’s not like this was a big group thing, or a family thing, or a work thing. It looks like a vacation getaway for boyfriend-girlfriend Alia and Ranbir. And also Ranbir’s best friend Ayan. Huh?? What now?? How does this work?

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So, in a completely frivolous and meaningless way, well aware that it doesn’t matter and is none of our business, what is your vote for the deal on the Ranbir-Ayan relationship:

  1. Magical creative partnership in a way that draws them together closer than lovers
  2. Lovers
  3. Weird undefined thing that is painful and passionate and no girlfriend can ever come close to
  4. Just good friends

26 thoughts on “Let’s Wildly Gossip and Make Up Stories About People We Don’t Know! What’s Up With Ayan-Ranbir-Alia?

    • 3 and “poor Ayan” or 3 and “poor Ranbir”? Or, I suppose, “poor Alia”?

      On Thu, Jan 2, 2020 at 3:34 PM dontcallitbollywood wrote:



  1. Okay, so my best friend was gay. He died of a brain tumor over 15 years ago, so I can’t say what we do do, but I can tell you that he and me and my boyfriend(s) at the time hung out on many occasions. He wanted a family, which is harder (though not impossible) to achieve in the world he was living in. If he were alive today he would be invited on my family vacations. He would be my children’s uncle. He was not out to his family, even at the time of his death, and this probably increased his reliance on friends. Friends can become family.

    Every scenario people write about can be true. But it could just as easily be true that Ranbir is good friend. He might care about this man as a brother. Interestingly I accept this friend’s joining in on vacations MORE because he was gay. It would be more odd if he was straight, but life is harder for gay men, and I imagine they will take the love where they can find it. If his friend treats him as family and takes him on vacation that is a beautiful thing.


    • Here’s what’s interesting, I feel like Karan and Shahrukh and Gauri very much have the relationship you are describing. Karan is their children’s third parent, he acts as the go-between in the Gauri-Shahrukh relationship, he buys Shahrukh cool clothes and decorated his babies’ nursery, and on and on. But somehow (and of course I don’t know these people), the Ayan-Ranbir relationship feels different. For one thing, Karan doesn’t think it is healthy. In his memoir he briefly mentioned how he sees himself and Shahrukh in Ayan and Ranbir, but more so, and told Ayan to be cautious and not get lost in it.

      (in case you haven’t seen it before, here is my post with background on Karan-SRK: https://dontcallitbollywood.com/2019/03/23/hindi-film-101-shahrukh-and-karan/ )

      On Thu, Jan 2, 2020 at 4:35 PM dontcallitbollywood wrote:


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      • That is interesting that Karan doesn’t find it healthy. And it is a good comparison, and I really don’t know anything about these people so it could all be terribly warped or totally innocent from my viewpoint.


      • Huh. I should read Karan’s biography at some point. I have it lying around but never got around to reading it.
        My personal belief is that both Karan/Ayan are in love or were in love at some point with their muse SRK/Ranbir. I think Karan was smart enough and mature enough to know nothing is going to happen and can’t happen as SRK is married and has a family and he even likes the wife to boot. I think he tried his best to have a brotherly relationship with SRK and to try to wean himself off their family eventually. For instance, I can’t even remember the last time they went on vacation together or even celebrated holidays together. For instance, Karan spent Christmas/NewYear in London with Manish Malhotra and others while SRK and Gauri stuck to their own family and extended family.
        The Ranbir/Ayan relationship *is* unhealthy because I think Ayan thinks he has a chance and Ranbir lets him think so. Like someone said, he can manipulate both genders. That kind of manipulation is going to hurt everyone eventually. It’s not normal to go on vacations with just one couple and one extra person. It’s got to be painful for either Alia or Ayan at some point.
        If I look at Ranbir with kindness, maybe he also has not figured things out yet and isn’t doing all this willfully.


        • Yeah, I feel similar with the Karan-SRK relationship. And then they grew up and there were some growing pains, but that’s healthy and normal and ultimately good. I think I said in the comments on the post about their relationship, that it feels like mostly just life stuff. Karan has his kids now, Shahrukh is sending Suhana and Aryan out in the world, both of them are increasingly passionate and busy with their studios. But in ten years when their jobs have calmed down, and Karan’s babies are bigger, they could go back to vacationing together. Which is healthy and good, the friendship isn’t holding them back from what they want to do, it will be there when they need it.

          But yeah, with Ayan and Ranbir I feel like the relationship is holding them back. In all ways, creatively and emotionally and in their mental health, and their ability to build long term relationships with other people.


  2. It’s probably realistically #1 or #3, but I would love for them to be lovers and for Alia to be Ranbir’s beard just because it would blow everyone’s minds, completely upend everyone’s perception of Ranbir as a womanizer, and confirm that Ranbir/Alia is not real and will not last.


    • Oh heck, Alia and Kat are lovers and traded off using Ranbir as a beard. Let’s make that Most Wished For Truth.

      On Thu, Jan 2, 2020 at 6:08 PM dontcallitbollywood wrote:


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    • Interesting! And explains his swapping out of girlfriends. He keeps these girls around to keep Ayan on his toes, and uses Ayan to make sure the girls know they can’t get too comfortable. Until they get too comfortable and then he cheats, and they either put up with it or leave.

      On Fri, Jan 3, 2020 at 2:52 AM dontcallitbollywood wrote:



  3. I don’t remember seeing him with Ayan that often when he was with Remember the Ibitza pics? It’s in the Alia phase,that Ayan seems like a constant motif. Is this all some build up for their movie but inadvertently comes off like a threesome?


    • I felt like he was around with Kat more than you would expect, but maybe not this much. I just did a quick image search and pulled up this of the three of them at Arjun Kapoor’s birthday:

      this when the three of them were traveling together in New York:

      And this just going on a movie date to see Brothers:


      So maybe it is the same amount, but with Alia it feels like more because there is the filming stuff on top of it.


      • Also, social media increases a couple’s exposure infinitely and Kat was not on instagram (or any other social media to my knowledge) when she was with Ranbir, right? Plus, I think in general Kat is a bit more reserved about being photographed with her beaus than Alia is so the photos would all have to have been taken by paparazzi.


        • Just the photos I found and posted above, the three of them on a trip to NYC, the three of them together at a party, the three of them going to a movie, seem slightly more so than I would expect. Like, obviously if you are at a party and your friend is there you would hang out together. And maybe Ayan arranged the movie trip for the three of them. And maybe they all happened to be in NYC at the same time unrelated. But it’s a bit much to have all three things happen. Especially once you put in that this is being filtered down to only what the media can find and post.

          On Fri, Jan 3, 2020 at 12:16 PM dontcallitbollywood wrote:



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