Happy Thanksgiving! In about an hour, I am going to leave to pick up dinner and then go to my parents for the day. But right now I am going to take a moment and talk about how thankful I am for DCIB.
I started this blog intending it to be a place to share my thoughts on Indian film, thoughts that I was having no luck getting published anywhere else. I had just finished writing my book but I knew I had SO MUCH more that I wanted to say. So I started out planning to make this a place for challenging intellectual discussion with a sense of humor, a place that people who loved these films as much as I do could come together and talk about a shared obsession.
And 6 years later I can say that yes, it is that. But what I did not expect is that it would become a place where we all truly love and care about each other as people. Last year I announced I was going to be slowing down the blog, and I have mostly stuck with that. I’m not obsessing about seeing movies opening night, or writing super long posts every day. I haven’t written a “Hindi Film 101” in ages. But what I have discovered is that those things were never the core of the DCIB community.
We all came together because we like the same movies, yes. But we stayed together because we like the same things in those movies, the open acceptance of difference, the importance of love and family. And disliked the same things too, the rigid definitions of social roles, the patriarchy, the value in putting “the right thing” over personal love.
Because we are people with the same values, and those values put love and acceptance over all, this has turned into one of the most loving and accepting communities I have ever been a part of. Babies are born, grandfathers die, sons grow up, dogs are adopted, life turns on it’s wheel, and with every turn we are pulled tighter and tighter into a bond. My DCIB people have become my closest friends, in a strange way. I know about your life on a day to day basis, I care and worry and celebrate with you daily.
What makes this community truly magical, what makes me most thankful on this day of thanksgiving, is that you all care about each other as well. I know that I can put up a post about Filmikudhi having a baby, or Rachel’s birthday, or a photo of Maria’s dog, and everyone will care about this, and know who these people are. This is a place where sharing doubles happiness and halves grief.
A community is the sum of it’s parts, but each of those parts go into making it special. So today I want to call out the people who make this place special. Genevieve, Emily, Filmikudhi, Popka, Kainaat, Procrastinatrix, Patricia Merry, Maria Gil, Joyomama, Kirre, Niki, Courtney, Angie, Shreyans, Eva, Molly, Zindagi, Sal, Shelomit, Claudia, Elin Star, Miss Braganza, and everyone else I may have forgotten, and everyone else who just lurks and sends positive vibes to us, thank you ALL. And I love you all, even the ones I don’t know.
And finally, because it is Thanksgiving, here is a photo of my sister’s turkey in her slowcooker. Well, ALMOST in the slowcooker. I am sure it will be fine: