I was gonna write a post actually about Indian film, you know, the thing this blog is supposed to be about. But instead I got thinking about this post and once again FAILED.
Filmikudhi is going to have a baby someday or other. For those of you who have dealt with new parenthood in the DCIB community, what do you want to share with her?
I’ll tell you what my mother said when my sister had her baby: “The one thing I really regret from my days of having babies. I should have slept more.” Which sounds funny, but also it was a statement of “forget the clean house, the handmade clothes, etc. etc. The best thing I could have done as a mother was be awake and present with my kids”.
And my grandfather just died, and now Eva’s granddad is dying. So what do you want to share about Death and Grief?
Here’s the most useful thing I learned about grief. It has a massive physical effect on you. When someone close to you dies, your body feels it independent of your brain. For me, I start sleeping all the time, can’t keep my eyes open. And I get really clumsy, like my body isn’t functioning quite right. It’s not “I am sad therefore I am sleepy”, it’s that my body is reacting weirdly. I knew for other people it is a sudden bad cold, or a headache that won’t go away, or your hands keep shaking, or your eyes won’t focus. Anyway, it’s weird, but also natural.