Happy Saturday! I got to sleep allllllllllllll the way to 8am today. And now I get to watch this lovely thing with you lovely people, and drive around doing errands, and then come home and have dinner with The Upstairs People. Oh, and if everyone ends up being too busy to come, I will give it 15 minutes for someone to join and then quit posting comments.
Thank You For Coming
Now I’m nervous about picking this movie! What if y’all hate it? But then, sometimes the best watchalongs are the ones where we hate the movie.
At 8am I will put up an “and PLAY” comment and then we can all just keep commenting along from there! If you join late, just fast forward to however many minutes past 8am Chicago time it is.
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Oooooo, she’s still got a thing for Arjun??? But, it’s her engagement party. Oh Bhumi.
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Fuck you Arjun!
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Oh, so all the old boyfriends are now coming on to her as she is unavailable. Okay.
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I’ve gone to multiple exes’ weddings and it was never this weird D :
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Ooooo, Anil’s looking young!
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Anil is such a tharki uncle in this!
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I do love that the focus is completely on Bhumi here. Even the fiance calls himself Bhumi’s “plus one”
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To the point of all her exes coming, I read the interactions as more about Bhumi than them. She’s still flirty, she’s still thinking “what ifs”, she’s not acting like someone who has made up her mind and is settled.
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Yeah. She is just listening to her stupid grandma and thinks she “should” just get settled and married. She doesn’t actually want it.
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No! No! Not more glass doors! Have these people not seen the error of their ways?
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Remember in Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani? Ranbir shows up at the wedding thinking that Kalki is “settling”. And then you realize all this dorky dopey over the top stuff is fun because she really loves her dorky dopey over the top fiance. Unlike Bhumi who is NOT into it.
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Oooooooooo, Mom and Anil! Very weird, but I’m into it.
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I’m worried about the kid! Why is no one else worried about the kid? I mean, in the movie. I know all us DCIBers are worried.
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Rabeya ))) :
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I think Mr. Toddles and Husband are finished building a fort downstairs and coming back up. Hopefully I cam jump back in again. If not, I trust Kirre to rant on my behalf! 🙂
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Ooh, I adore a good fort! Enjoy ( :
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Oh I will!
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I think I’ve gotten my nights confused, was one party two? or did the teenager after sex change her outfit and get upset about not getting texts that very same night?
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I think it was night two. They had the little family party, and then the next night the huge everyone is invited party.
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I think it’s interesting, and a good choice, that she’s never talked about either financial security or babies in this “I want to find happily ever after” thing. She is just worried about being “weird” in society like she was as the daughter of a single Mom, and about being alone.
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I have this stupid hope that the person she slept with was her fiance.
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If it was, then that could be a very interesting movie. What if he does good sex, AND is perfect on paper, but is also just boring and a settling choice? She still shouldn’t marry him and that would be a journey to get there.
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Well I guess it wasn’t him…
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LOL, I hadn’t put together that the sister’s name is Jeevika.
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Husband and Mr. Toddles are up in the living room watching this with me… and husband goes “Ummm did she just sleep with someone at her engagement party and doesn’t know who it is?! Is this Mr. Toddles appropriate?” I told him he had already seen it with me. 😀 I am teaching him hindi!
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Yes, it’s educational! We should wake up ALL the children and make them watch it with us.
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I think its great sex ed. I am with Genevieve, I have no problem having sex talks with children when they are small.
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9 -year old was just cuddling on the couch with me while heroine was topping her fast coming fiance, and I told him to go cuddle with Daddy in bed. I don’t know what is coming, so I don’t actually know what it will teach him.
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Mr. Toddles enjoys this song. Husband is making eggs and questioning my parenting choices. 🙂
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Then do NOT let him read the subtitles on this one, lol. I am confounded by many a choice here. Why “thand” = “vanilla” when “frigid” is right there???
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HA! Agreed!!! Husband has seen many hindi movies with me without subtitles. I am shocked at how much he follows along.
He watched Kofee with Karan with me the Neetu/ Zeenat episode and then when we were watching Amar Akbar Anthony without subtitles he recognized the scene Neetu was referencing in KWK where she says she listened to Parveen Babi’s pulse and was somehow able to tell that she was pregnant.
He also watched Indian Police Force with me and knew who Rohit Shetty was because of KWK. How sure how I feel about all this.
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I am pleased to learn hubby is properly socialized ( ;
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Shut up Bhumi, I want to end up like Dr. Kapoor! She is happy, she has a kid, she has friends, she doesn’t care what people think, it’s the best life.
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Yupp! ANNOYING!
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I am really loving the running Gulzar gag. It’s somehow perfect for Anil’s character. Truly interesting, but also the only interesting thing about him?
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OMG. That’s amazing. I thought it would be her mother, but this is so much better.
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Tharki uncle!
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Admittedly, I adore this song : D
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Me too!
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Sharmila is sooooo swoonworthy in that movie. I should rewatch.
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YES! I was spoiled on this reveal from the cast list, and it’s why I wanted to watch the movie.
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He didn’t want to date her, he wanted to be her. He looks great.
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Hmmm. So the younger character is her younger self, but without the hangups, kind of. She’s enjoying her youth, she’s confident, she selfish. She’s what Bhumi could have been if she wasn’t obsessed with finding her “prince” all the time.
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Could it be a woman who gave her happiness, I don’t think it would be in this movie, but that would be fun!
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So far, none of this friend group can be trusted to operate a motor vehicle and have a conversation at the same time.
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That is a really good speech. ”If I could, I would be me 24/7. You have a choice”. That is excellent, and a good acknowledgement that this is a story of a character with privilage.
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Bhumi’s mom said something similar to her before when they were planning the engagement, about her having a choice whether to get married or not.
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Noooooooooooooo
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(I mean, this is probably a red herring, but still, no.)
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It’s so sad
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ohhh, SUCH A BUMMER!!!
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I hate to say this, because I love Rhea, but I think her husband might be a bad director. I think part of the reason this movie isn’t building and hitting the way it could is that it’s not put together right. Bhumi is doing great, the script is good, but somehow it’s just not quite right.
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EXACTLY WHAT I SAID!!!
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I still don’t hate the movie though! Waiting for that to happen, I think another 15 minutes you said and then it gets horrible?
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You will see!
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VERY CAREFULLY DRIVING ONLY
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9 year old walked in and said “What happened”
“She just found out that she got really really drunk and slept with her best friend’s husband. And that’s… not something you’re supposed to do.”
So the kid is learning about sex…
Oh, and don’t text and drive.
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Marriages are ups and downs, that fight was a pretty mild down point.
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And 2 minutes ago is where the movies starts goes sideways for me! And it gets progressively worse!!!!
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Yea, a complete letdown from this point on
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Ah, I didn’t realize you had also seen already, Kirre.
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Yea, forgot to mention it early on, but yeah
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Thank you for keeping us company the second time through C:
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Getting into a car crash is the appropriate thing to do when you realize you slept with your best friend’s husband.
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Who is also your best friend! I liked that the husband was part of the friend group all along too.
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My best friends husbands are definitely part of the friend group.
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A ONE-PERSON car crash, max. No call to endanger “paa ji, sardaar ji.”
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Again with the weird overloaded mic thing on the background song. I guess it must be a deliberate choice, but it’s not like this is a low-fi punk rock context or anything >.>
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So far, still not hating it! She’s right to break up with Jeevan, and the film’s right to give Jeevan a strong conclusion. She was pitying him, but he doesn’t pity himself.
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Yeah, I like this exit for him.
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Yupp. That part is totally fine!
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Explaining to the 9 year old that even though the man is sad the woman is leaving him, she isn’t good enough for him, he deserves someone who really loves him and respects him.
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Now that is good sex ed!
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Oh, the massive indignity of having to take the train. . .
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Rabiyah! Why is your Mom mad at you? And also, they could have had the same effect without making it quite this over the top. Could have just had it be a sexy picture going around her high school. Still would be humiliating and horrible for her.
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EXACTLY! And you will see what happens next.
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Exactly is for why is your mom mad at you.
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See, THIS is humiliating enough, her flashback when she feels like everyone in high school is talking about her having sex with her boyfriend. No reason to make Rabiyeh’s character suffer such an extraordinary amount.
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AND THIS SCENE! I hate everything about this!!!!
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Same, made me so mad the first time. Such horrible, horrible friends, even though the acting is very good
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And it continues to get worse.
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I love you Dr. Kapoor! This whole ending is bonkers, but at least Dr. Kapoor continues to be THE BEST.
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One of the things that amazes me about India is how it follows a small town pattern of the U.S. In my small town people who grew up here often act like life is still in high school, with the same clicks and the same grudges. The people who move here don’t act that way, so the different mentality is more obvious. In so many of the Indian movies I see this life is school continued, despite the massive population. It is perhaps most obvious in this movie.
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These women are neither good friends NOW is the friend a good mother!!! Bhumi and the other woman think Bhumi slept with her best friend’s husband. Bhumi’s mom thinks its fine because he gave her a valentine in like middle school. And the glasses mom BLAMES Bhumi for the sex tape and more importantly, she’s gong to make her DAUGHTER APOLOGIZE for it in front of the WHOLE SCHOOL!!! For a sex tape made by a guy!!!!!!!!!
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NOR not NOW!
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The sex tape thing is the really bonkers bit to me. I guess I don’t know how child pornography is defined in India, but if this was the U.S., police and forensic interviewers and child legal advocates would have been involved 20 mins ago.
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Well, they do make clear that she is graduating. So it’s not child porn, it’s 18 year old porn. And I guess this is a thing in India? “winning” by sharing sexual images taken without permission, and then it ruins the girls life instead of the boys. At least, it’s been a plot point in multiple movies and every time it makes me mad because IT MAKES NO SENSE. Why should she be ashamed? Ia ccept that society shames her, but, like, why?
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Jeebus creebus.
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Because only women have “izzat” to be hidden away apparently
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They only just found out about the sex tape – anger is the first response, blaming someone else when you can’t deal with the iffys and the no one to blame is how humans react. I am surprised that the daughter has to apologize for a sex tape that she didn’t make though.
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I’m okay with her blaming her friend for giving advice, but they really needed to put some qualifiers in there acknowledging that it is the boy’s fault most of all.
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That’s my point I guess for the sex tape. I get that the shock of it all might make me unreasonably angry at Bhumi. But I’m sorry as a mother my first reaction is to protect my daughter NOT make her apologize in an embarrassing fashion in front of the whole school. F that!
And everything with the other friend. Bhumi thinking she slept with her best friend’s husband. Her friend thinking the worst of her. Come on. You all have been friends for 25 years… be better!
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They made those orgasm statistic up.
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Also, it isn’t the men’s fault women don’t orgasm. It is women’s own fault. Communication, self love, these are all things ignored by simply blaming “men”.
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Everything about this ending sucks so much!
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Never having had an orgasm with somebody else is one thing. Never having had one in general??? Um. Girl.
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Oh! I think the movie actually comes around on that! If Bhumi had, overall, been able to say what she needed and wanted in a relationship instead of just running after men, if she hadn’t been conditioned to think the problem was with her, then she could have spoken up more easily and helped her partner help her.
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See, what would work is if this turned into her best friends both turning on her and that is the final thing that breaks her. As in, breaking up with Jeevan and all the boyfriends was no biggie in the end, it’s the friendships that really matter. Only it wasn’t written/directed quite right. Both of them should have been more sad and disappointed instead of angry. If it had been a sad speech about giving advice casually and thoughtlessly to someone else’s daughter, and casually breaking someone else’s marriage, that would have worked. Made Bhumi think about how she spent all her energy on this marriage quest instead of responsibility for the other things that mattered. But instead they are just crazy angry for no reason.
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And everyone believes the worst of someone who is supposed to have been their best friend for 25 years!
But also the glasses mom! You suck as a mother. You are the worst!!!
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On the other hand, still love you Dr. Kapoor! This is great advice, and her daughter should have listened to her ages ago.
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Mostly like Dr. K but not her stupid advice that the friend’s husband gave her a valentine in middle school so it’s okay to sleep with her husband.
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I’ll let it go on the grounds of being a Mom and just wanting her daughter to feel less like garbage for a second. It’s not her place to pile on just then.
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Oh, she gave it to herself!
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Yupp. Which is great again.
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YES! That part is GENIUS. It has all the meaning needed for the film as a whole, and it reveals so much about her character. Going back to the fairy tale opening. Bhumi was so brainwashed, she thought of sex as only part of the magical Prince Charming. She kept running in circles thinking that someone else had to be the answer to the point of not seeing the obvious.
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Thank goodness!
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