Suhaag Raat (First Night) Song/Scenes: Which Are Your Favorite?

This is related to the Kabhi Kabhi post I just put up in which we had a discussion of what is up with that very memorable “first night” song.

Here are my 3 categories of “first night” song/scenes:

  1. Husband is willing/eager/enthusiastic, wife is shy
  2. Wife is willing/eager/seductive, husband is shy
  3. Both are equally excited

Kabhi Kabhi is a clear “husband is willing/eager/enthusiastic, wife is shy”

Gadar has a less obvious (more obvious?) version of the same thing. Amisha is keeping her eyes down and looking away, but is clearly happy to be there. Shy, but willing.

Along those same lines, there are Saif and Vidya in Parineeta.

I guess this is supposed to be a shy bride or something? I know in the plot of the film she is a former prostitute that he married, so it isn’t her first time (although it kind of is, since it is her first time with love and respect). Anyway, I would far FAR rather be Raakhee in “Kabhi Kabhi” than Madhuri here.

And just to clean that taste out of your mouth, here is a very nice shy-but-enthusiastic groom song.

Moving on, how about the aggressive wives? They do exist!

For instance, Madhuri in Beta. Who was forced to delay her “first night” by her scheming mother in law and has quite a bit of pent up frustration.

I like Kareena in Refugee, who manages to be both aggressive, and a little bit shy.

And then there’s Rani in Paheli, who was a little shy but mostly eager

Finally, equally enthusiastic couples! I love Arvind Swami and Manisha Koirala in Bombay, so excited that they are jumping around.

Mani Ratnam does really good “first night” songs, there’s also Alai Payuthay.

And of course Roja, where he just kind of sneaks it in while you aren’t looking.

And a non-Ratnam but still Rahman song, “In Lamhon”

Okay, that’s all I can think of! But I know there are more. Give me your ideas for active groom/shy bride, active bride/shy groom, and equally active/shy songs!


14 thoughts on “Suhaag Raat (First Night) Song/Scenes: Which Are Your Favorite?

  1. Parineeti was a film I watched early in my Hindi film “career” and I only realized later how ‘risque’ it was. They aren’t actually married, at least not in front of their families. So much so that he let’s himself get betrothed to another. It is really a remake of Devdas (which I also only understood later) but with a better ending. This first night scene is actually very daring.


    • Although they were published with Parineeta first and Devdas second, I think Devdas was Chattopadhyay’s first novel. You can see him reworking the theme of the childhood romance, forbidden love, etc. into a different form with Parineeta. I don’t think the novel consummates the marriage, there are a lot of other big changes from novel to film, but unlike the Bhansali Devdas, the VVC Parineeta actually keeps a lot of the deeper meanings of the novel. And I think making the marriage consummated improves it a lot, confirms how much both of them believe in this simplified ceremony.

      On Tue, Mar 19, 2019 at 1:02 PM dontcallitbollywood wrote:



      • I never looked up the original of Parineeta so I had NO idea it was by the same author. It is really the same story….I like Parineeta’s ending much better. I wonder if the ‘out there’ness of the sex scene didn’t pigeon hole Vidya who has not done enough film.


        • The original version is very different. Same broad strokes, rich and poor families live next door, boy-girl close bond, strife between the fathers over the loan and wanting the adjoining plot of land, and the stranger from over seas (Sanjay) showing up to shake things up, secret marriage, misunderstanding, and then reveal that she truly did consider herself a “married woman”. But similar to Devdas, a lot of it is about the changing Indian society during the late colonial era. Saif’s character is wealthy and educated and western, Sanjay’s represents reform Hinduism and modernity, and Vidya is caught between the two. And a big part of it is the changing attitudes towards marriage. Vidya and Saif’s wedding takes place when she is 13 (not consummated, of course, just a garland exchange). In old-fashioned forms, a marriage might take place when a girl was that young and then not be consummated for years and years but still considered to be a “real” marriage. But because the couple is separated right after, and because Vidya’s uncle converts to a reform modern version of Hinduism, and because Vidya is so young, Saif believes that it was not a “real” marriage, that he was wrong to have done it and should try to force Vidya away from him and not contact her. The reveal that Vidya has been waiting for him all these years (it ends when she is 18) is an odd kind of throwback to the idea of the faithful child bride with a sprinkling of female choice, Saif assumed their marriage was not real until Vidya showed that she truly considered it to be so, it was always up to her whether or not it was a “real” marriage.

          Very glad the film version did not make her 13, and I think having this immediate consummation instead manages to fulfill the same function, making Saif question if it was a marriage and then consummation, or just sex. And giving Vidya back her choice too, if she wanted to consider it just sex or a marriage. And putting it in the 1960s gives us a different kind of changing times story, that doesn’t have the same weight and depth of the colonial era.

          On Tue, Mar 19, 2019 at 4:23 PM dontcallitbollywood wrote:



    • I also really like their first Suhaag Raat, when Hrithik shows up all ready to do his duty, Aish says she isn’t ready, and he’s all “cool by me, we can get a divorce”. So nice and respectful, and also so mature and un-like the enthusiastic out of control young grooms we usually get.


      • My reaction to that scene was having Hrithik say, “OK, I’ll just make do with my 387 other wives.” I definitely couldn’t buy the “romance” there.


    • Also, don’t get fooled by that Anu Malik music credit at the beginning. This was an Illayaraja composition from the original Tamil version.

      Unrelated question, how do I post youtube videos to make them open in the comments section, instead of as a link that takes you to Youtube?


      • To embed the link, go down a line, post it, and then down another line. Like this:

        Here I am doing it:

        On Tue, Mar 19, 2019 at 3:54 PM dontcallitbollywood wrote:



  2. I am not a fan of such songs (esp. from Raghavendra Rao – remember we discussed this on some post on this site), but would refer the below songs (not exactly First Night, but consummation event) from Telugu –
    1. Tabu’s debut movie along with crooning from music director Ilayaraja and some fruits from the director Raghavendra Rao – Kalaya Nijama from Coolie No. 1

    2. Sobhana in Ompula Vaikhar from April 1st Vidudala (actually a dream – starts with wedding)

    3. One of the alltime hits from Ilayaraja-BharatiRaja combo – Mate mantramu from Sitakokachiluka

    4. Nagarjuna-Manisha Koirala in Criminal – Telugu/Hindi – Tu Mile or Telusa Manasa

    5. Asin in Gharshana (Hindi: Force Tamil: Kaaka kaaka) – It’s an isolated wood house in a river


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