Discussion Post, Important Topic! Why is Shahrukh Khan Sexy?

I don’t mean like “because the good angels blessed him at birth”, I mean “what are the mannerisms, appearances, etc. that make him sexy”. I have my own personal theory, I am sure many of you have yours.

Here is my theory: Shahrukh is sexy because he is deeply intensely scarily focused on you with his whole body. When he turns on the sexy in a love scene, it’s not just his eyes, everything becomes oriented to the object of his affection, hyper sensitive to their whole body. It’s like dancing, but deeper.

anyway, that’s my theory! What’s yours?

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69 thoughts on “Discussion Post, Important Topic! Why is Shahrukh Khan Sexy?

  1. I was going to rake up that old “eye of the beholder” cliche. You know, the combo of attributes that makes someone sexy to me might not do it for somebody else. But come on, is there anybody, ANYBODY, out there who doesn’t think Shah Rukh Khan is sexy? And if you don’t, I’d like to know the Hell why.

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    • I went through a similar process, I was going to make this post something like “why is Shahrukh sexy or if you don’t find him sexy, why is your favorite star sexy?” But that’s just silly, EVERYONE finds Shahrukh sexy!

      But also, what is your combo of attributes that makes him sexy? And is it sexy in that general “witty, confident, sensitive” way or in that specific “this song makes me melt when I watch it” way?

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      • I was in the middle of an SRK movie (I forget which one) a few months ago, when a friend dropped by and I casually mentioned that he was my new boyfriend (haha) and the response was “……him…? really?”

        But I think she must be the exception to the rule. I have posted pictures of him on my social media a few times and have had people (who aren’t even fans of Indian film) genuinely thank me for the gift.

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    • Um, me? I find his brand of sexy to be off-putting. It’s the presumption that “I am so overpoweringly charismatic that you will of course fall in love with me and if you don’t I WILL MAKE YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH ME.” Not my thing. I did love him in Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi but he’s subverting his image in that film. Also, Suri as a character is adorable.

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      • Swades! Check it out, if you haven’t already, just for a similar character. Still a little confident, but a scientist and a quiet type who waits for the woman to come to him.

        Did you see the comment a little farther up about how Aamir comes off as just are regular dude who makes movies while Shahrukh is a STAR (with the presumption that Shahrukh and his overwhelming confidence is the sexier option)? I read it and thought “Aha! I think I have at least one reader who prefers the “I am a regular guy who makes movies” type!”

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        • Wow, I haven’t seen Swades. I need to fix that immediately. And I did see that comment! I think though what makes Aamir sexy to me in his best roles is he comes across as smart and thoughtful and empathetic. Ghulam, a thug but not mindless, he is sensitive to Rani’s pain and when his conscience wakes up he does the right thing even though it costs him everything. Sarfarosh, he is a cop but always the smallest man in the room. He doesn’t win because he’s the best fighter (he’s often at a disadvantage) he wins through sheer persistence and smarts. And he is very patient with Sonali, he’s burning with lust inside but outwardly he’s as thoughtful with her as he is with his work. Talaash, similar character, suffers a great loss but his intelligence and integrity are present in his eyes. His more recent roles don’t show off that intelligence anymore, which is really too bad.

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          • Yeah, Swades almost feels like an Aamir role, it is so focused on quiet intelligence instead of cockiness. Check it out! Shahrukh wears an ID on a halyard over his button shirt. It’s sexy. Dear Zindagi is another softer SRK role. Honestly not sure if you in particular would like the film (it is the anti-Masala), but it has that softer smarter SRK.

            Not that there is anything wrong with being a monogamous Aamir fan, it takes all kinds to make a world, but I think you may have watched all the good Aamir movies and if you want to branch out, Shahrukh is patiently waiting.

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          • Ha, well I’m not very monogamous considering I’ve had crushes on Akshay and Anil and really enjoy Salman when he’s not in shockingly terrible films. I have had several people recommend Dear Zindagi to me too so I will add it to the list. Maybe I will schedule an SRK night and do a double feature.

            Some other SRK films I’ve liked are Chak de India and Om Shanti Om (Dard e Disco kills me).

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          • If you do watch Swades, just a head’s up that the parts in NASA at the beginning are fairly cringeworthy. But the movie is definitely worth pushing past them. ๐Ÿ™‚

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          • Yes, keep going! The NASA stuff just bookends the movie, it’s the bit in India that really matters.

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  2. This is probably one of the most important topics I’ve ever had the privilege to weigh in on.

    I think your theory is a very good one. I mean, okay sure, he very obviously has an extremely well-formed body but I think it starts in the eyes but carries into the movement of rest of his body. When Shah Rukh Khan is in a love scene (or even in sad scenes focused around a love interest) his eyes are staring as if his heroine is the most important thing he has ever seen in his entire life. Even if it’s only for that moment it feels like it has always been that way and will continue to be that way. Not only that, but he conveys this idea that in that moment, he needs them more than he has ever needed anyone or anything and he is deadly serious about it. And all of this flows into how he touches them. Like that need and feeling of focus and importance radiates out and when he wraps his arms around them, he is both holding so tightly because he needs it so much but also with a gentleness for fear that if he holds on too hard he will break them. I think this happens with his hands, too. Like he simply cannot help but touch them, and yes it is in a sexual way but it is much more than that somehow.

    Also his collarbone area is just beautiful and he’s almost always wearing slightly open shirts. And the thing is, on literally anyone else (including my fiance), I would roll my eyes at this style choice. It looks so so soooo cheesy. But somehow he makes it look so good.

    And finally, the dimples combined with the mischievous look he can get is so attractive. Humor is very very sexy.

    Now somehow after all this I need to concentrate on work again….

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    • I think I good sum up of most of what I said can be found in the video for Suraj Hua Maddam. As one of many examples.

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        • I might cry right now. (mostly kidding?)

          Seriously though, I never went through that phase as a teenager where I would read those magazines like Tiger Beat or that type and cut out pictures of cute guys like my peers. I mean I thought people were cute but nothing like how I feel about SRK in my 30s. I completely understand that footage of teenagers weeping when seeing The Beatles on The Ed Sullivan Show.

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          • Oh yeah, seeing him live was really amazing. I am sure I have told this story somewhere in my book or my blog, but it wasn’t just “fans” in the audience who lost their minds, something about his charisma just overwhelmed 10,000 people until we were all on our feet screaming and crying.

            I’m with you on Tiger Beat. When I was a teenager, I was all about black and white actors (one friend pointed out that a) we were obsessed with dead people and b) they were the same dead people our mother was obsessed with), but even there it was more role specific than the actual person. And then I found Shahrukh when I was 19 and it was a whole different level.

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          • I fear that he may be at the point where he is no longer interested in doing tours as part of his career but I would so love to be there for that experience.

            That’s interesting. Almost like a chicken vs. egg question. I think given his background in theater that he may have always been, by necessity, more in touch with the physical aspects of acting and portraying emotionand intensity than maybe an actor who has only ever done screenwork would have to be. And so I think maybe that is why he was originally cast in those roles, combined with his own desire to play something different, something other than the typical hero, drew him to accept those roles.

            Oooh! I love that quote! Very witty and self-aware and also acknowedging that masculinity doesn’t have to be equated with machismo.

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    • You are so right. Do you think it is that way of approaching love scenes that made so many directors cast him as a stalker early on? Like the heroine isn’t just a woman he likes, but the end all and be all of his life. Or maybe it is because his earliest romantic roles all had that manic tinge in the script, that is how he learned to do love scenes?

      And yes, his willingness to let himself be open and easy is super sexy! Humor, smiling, a little hint of skin, versus the aggressive machoness of other celebrities who have to be serious all the time. This is one of my favorite Shahrukh quotes, because under the joke is a real awareness of the kind of masculinity he presents:

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      • And yet again it posted under the wrong reply. But it’s alright I guess since I was sort of responding to both!

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    • I’ve heard he’s the same way in real life in terms of how much he focuses on you when you’re with him. Everyone that’s met him talks about it. He could be with you for 30 seconds but in those 30 seconds he makes everyone feel like there is no more important person in the world to him than you.

      Agree about the slightly open shirts. This is a style choice I detest and do not really think anyone can pull off other than SRK. It looks terrible on 99.9999999% of people.

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      • That total focus is something I’ve heard of and even experienced. It seems like it is rare, but not unheard of. Some people just focus like that as soon as they meet someone, make you feel like their special favorite person. But combine it with his charisma, and intelligence, and sensitivity, then you have something just overwhelming.

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        • It always reminds me of that quote Karan gave once about SRK that he ends up breaking a lot of hearts and isn’t able to maintain friendships because of this. Apparently he’s so intense and focused on someone when he’s with them that everyone starts thinking they’re his best friend and assuming they’re important in his life. Because of that, they start having certain expectations from him. When in due time they realize SRK was never actually that close to them, they can’t handle it and it’s a painful realization.

          So it’s a double edged sword. He can win over people very quickly. But then they end up wanting more than he can give because they assume they have a special bond. It never ends well.

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          • I can definitely see that. After having experienced it enough times in reality, I’ve started to hold back a lot harder in reaction when I feel it. I think it’s ended up costing me friendships in that I don’t trust people to really like me, but I would rather have that than feeling betrayed.

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  3. I think it’s his body language, he’s amazing with body language when most actors have a typical, rehearsed type sexiness but his is more raw, intense, almost like he’s unaware of what he looks like or what he’s doing. He’s truly the king of romance. And he’s extremely versatile like you said. whatever he does, he does with confidence. He can be funny in a hilarious, childlike way (expressions on screen) but then also be intense (in a super masculine way). He’s good in roles like Swades and all but I’m sure that if he had a career filled with those types of roles he wouldn’t be the SRK people know him to be today. He comes alive in romance and specifically the kind that was made in the 90s and early 2000s. So it’s also that he had the perfect type of charm for the type of film that Bollywood makes. He does sexiness better than any actor I’ve ever seen in any industry

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    • You got me thinking about Swades, and you know what else he does? Not all the time, but most of the time, he changes his sexiness to fit the character. In Swades, he was crazy sexy and crazy in love and all of that, but at the same time he stayed careful and thoughtful and slow moving, as would fit his character. In JHMS, he was in love with Sejal, but approached her more aggressively and angrily, as would fit that character. And on and on. He’s not just slotting in a love scene, he is making it work within the larger context of his character.

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  4. I think attitude and confidence matter much more than physical looks. Of course you have to be at least decent looking – it won’t work for the truly unattractive. But once you have that, what matters is how you present yourself to the world. SRK is so cocky and confident about himself and his abilities that you believe him. Most of the time I notice his body language, not necessarily in movies because there it depends on the character, but in real life he has a way he walks like he’s about to conquer the world. He never looks like a schlub. His back is always straight, his posture is perfect, and he always looks on. Compare him to Aamir and you’ll notice the difference right away. Aamir is just a regular dude who makes movies sometimes. SRK is a STAR, whether the camera is rolling or not. You might not even know him but you’ll know someone important has walked in when SRK comes. And then there are the sweet dimples (not those are in the ‘gift from god’ category) that make you feel comfortable even if the rest of the persona can be a little threatening. It’s a difficult combination for someone to have and he has it.

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    • Oh, good point! And that attitude is why he plays so well overseas, I think. He walks in the room as though he truly doesn’t need an introduction and it is your own fault for not knowing who he is.

      I’ll flip that around a bit and say that part of why he is so dead sexy when he does a love scene is that we have this super confident man who has turned into soft mush in front of the woman he desires. It makes his desires seem that much stronger that they have reduced him to nothing.

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  5. I definitely think that it’s the raw intensity it has. It sets him apart from all of the other actors especially during the 90s. Interestingly though I never really found 90s SRK that attractive. Present day 2010s SRK with stubble though? *swoons* Out of all the of Khans he has definitely aged the best

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    • 100%
      His earlier works are good and l love them but he definitely looks better as he gets older! I think around 2000 on is when he, for me, becomes downright sexy.

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    • Same! I thought he was really sweet in the 90s. A cute boy. Even when he’s playing a murderer, it’s was like..aww. but he’s so cute how can you hate him? Like a puppy dog with those big brown eyes.

      It’s the older SRK with stubble that is really sexy and gorgeous. Age has been really really kind to him. Ironically, sometimes I think it works against him. He can’t really shift into the older statesman roles because really… who would buy it? Even I would protest if he started doing boring social dramas like Dangal with a huge potbelly. It shifts focus in movies where the main story is different – like Raees is about a gangster but because he’s so good at it and looks so sexy, people pay too much attention to the short romantic scenes and then say he keeps doing the same thing!

      I figure that’s why he keeps doing stuff like Fan and Zero to get the focus off of his real face and body and try to drag along the audience to watch something different. Because with how he normally looks, it’s become difficult to do something outside the norm now.

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      • Dear Zindagi it really spoiled the film, instead of being a sweet story about a young woman going through therapy, it became kind of weirdly sexual. Although, I also think it became a more interesting film in the end? Having that actual tension of how the therapy relationship was going to turn out added a stronger layer to the therapy scenes that might otherwise have been a bit dull.

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        • The weird sexual vibe definitely gives it more layers and makes it a more complicated and better movie.. but only in the parts where he’s present. It ruined the rest of the movie where Alia is alone with others because they are just too boring to hold up against the screen wattage that SRK provides. The movie just seems deadly dull when he isn’t around especially with those 3 stupid guys. The comparison is sooooo poor – she has to choose between those charisma-free idiots while SRK is in the same movie? Like really? It would ruin a person for life.

          The problem is you expect the movie or want the movie to go in a different direction because he’s there. The therapy ends up taking a back seat. If they wanted the focus on that, they should have gotten someone like Amitabh or Aamir.

          He does the right thing at the end and sends her away. but it’s still sort of dissatisfying. What misery would it be to get SRK….as a therapist. Or they should have made him into someone like Suri from RNBDJ.

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          • Yeah, if the movie had been “a story of a troubled young woman who desperately needs therapy, and her therapist who is the only one she can trust but is trying to navigate the unexpected sexual tension between them” that would have been a really interesting different movie. And the Alia-SRK scenes would have fit better within it, the kind of magical bubble of intimacy they found together.

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          • I had the same experience with Dear Zindagi! The whole time I was torn between wanting Alia and SRK to end up together but also reeeeeaally hoping that the script didn’t take the cheap way out and go with the doctor leaving his practice for his patient trope. Ultimately I’m glad they went they way they did but it was definitely distracting.

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          • If they had cast someone slightly older than Alia, I might have even been okay with it. Something like saying good-bye at the end of the therapy sessions, and then him showing up at her film release a year later and them starting fresh without the therapist-patient relationship. It would still be a little unethical, but that I could brush past so long as the age difference wasn’t so extreme.

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          • I guess that’s why casting Alia was brilliant. Because the age difference is so much, you feel a little wrong for wanting them to be together. It makes the ending acceptable even if it leaves you sort of dissatisfied. The audience knows it’s the right thing and the way things should ultimately head even if the chemistry and SRK’s presence is distracting.

            If someone older had been cast, I don’t think it would have worked to not have them end up together at the end. It’s like Chekhov’s gun.

            I’ve heard Gauri Shinde originally wanted Katrina in the role but either SRK or Karan pushed for Alia. Maybe it would have worked with Kat too since she’s one person SRK has no chemistry with. But then the story would have been ruined in other ways since she can’t act at all!

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        • Bingo about Dear Zindagi! I kept wanting to see more of SRK and Aliaโ€“it was downright cruel for the movie to have so little of him.

          And I just feel so bad for any woman who has fallen for SRK in a movie and then had to go on with her life without himโ€“so cruel! Like HOW is she able to go back to living (and loving someone else)?

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          • I don’t know, Aditya Roy Kapoor is pretty awesome. And Saif was pretty great in KHNH. There is life after SRK!

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  6. Margaret, what on earth possessed you to ask such a question in the middle of a Tuesday afternoon? My long answer is too personal to put in a public comment section. ๐Ÿ™‚

    My short answer boils down to two aspects:
    1. What he has (face, body, voice, intelligence, humor, compassion, anger, joy, energy, grace, grit).
    2. How he uses it (expressions, sounds, silences, looks, movements, touches, connections).

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    • That video is perfect! You know he’s joking but not quite. Cocky but kind of light-hearted and goofy.. it’s such a difficult combination. It’s easy to veer into vanity and arrogance and become dislikable but he never crosses the line.

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      • It was an interesting choice to edit that sound clip over the video. In the video he’s actually saying that his shot in that year’s Dabboo Ratnani calendar (2016? 2017?) is like “Mandakini under the waterfall…really, it is!” So he’s being silly yet cocky in the video as well as in the clip, but under two different circumstances. Very effective! ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • I’m so tired! My flight was crazy delayed last night. So I thought, “what can I set in motion and know it will be self-sustaining while I try to stay awake until the end of the work day? I know!”

      I like your simple argument. And I would point out that Hrithik, for instance, has more grace and more beauty than Shahrukh by a long shot, but doesn’t use it nearly as well. If he approached his love scenes like his dance scenes, he would slay me.

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      • Personally I think Hrithik is funny looking. He reminds me of Dudley Doright from Rocky and Bullwinkle. But he is very graceful. Generally I agree with your point. Good luck staying up! Working day is almost done!

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        • So excited! Only question is, do I stop by the grocery store on the way home and get dinner from the Delhi counter, or do I go home and rummage in the fridge, or do I give up and get McDonalds.

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        • I’ve always felt that Hrithik was kind of odd looking too! And I’ve always kind of felt weird about that because so many people think he’s perfect looking

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      • But the problem with Hrithik is that he looks more in love with himself than he could be with anyone else. He looks too done-up. Blond highlights, overly huge muscles, fake spray tan and then combine that with a bland personality. The guy has a life coach and and says meaningless philosophical mumbo jumbo. Like you know he read that quote on a motivational poster type of thing, not that he’s reading books in his spare him.

        Sexiness is effortless. He is all effort.

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        • I would add that sexiness is also being happy with what you have. Hrithik in Agneepath was peak sexy for me. He wasn’t thinking about his looks or trying to be the best, he was too focused on his goal to think about anything like that. And that covers both the character, and Hrithik himself, who lost his vanity in his dedication to the performance. Same with Jodha-Akbar, he Became Akbar, and Akbar had no vanity, just confidence and focus.

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  7. IMO he has a feline, panther-like quality, that is more reminiscent of a rock star than of an actor star, especially as he gets older. Sometimes his screen presence feels like he’s a former rock star turned superstar actor.

    Btw is he a Scorpio? Because he sure feels like one.

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  8. Ahh, the most important question.

    No Joke, I had two HUGE SRK posters in my bedroom.

    So many people have said this before me, but to me it’s how he looks at his heroines. He looks at women the way women want to be looked at – respect, dignity, and maybe a little but of awe. He makes women feel special it reflects in his movies. Even in item songs – it doesn’t seem like he is leering at the women he is dancing with, but admiring them (a la Chaiyya Chaiyya, India’s first modern Item Boy).

    I also think what makes Shahrukh different is that he doesn’t try to be anything but Shahrukh. I have never felt in any of his interviews that he is inauthentic – it always seems like he sincerely pays attention and wants to answer thoughtfully.

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    • Good point about the item songs! Most of the time it feels like the only options are to look at the female dancers with lust, or with dignified disgust. Shahrukh somehow finds an in between place where he admires their dancing and their bodies as works of art without judging them, or desiring them.

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  9. Hi there! This does fall into the appreciation post I was talking about, so thank you!! (Even if this wasn’t really for my benefit.. I appreciate the forum to discuss and appreciate SRK :P)

    I have been in love with SRK since I was probably 5 and did not even know what ‘sexy’ meant! But (like someone already mentioned) I really think it’s more just about the way that SRK just moves around the person that he is talking to–its so intimate (or personal?) and something that not a lot of people in the modern (especially post social media world) do that this exchange itself becomes intensely sexy.

    I also think its SRK’s own personality, for example his continuous reading and improving his breadth of knowledge… and being able to hold a conversation with both depth and humor just makes him immeasurably sexy in my opinion.

    I probably have many more reasons–all echoed above already! Dimples and that walk–YES and yes and a million times over! Hahah.

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  10. This thread is the best kind of accompaniment for my morning coffee. Thanks Margaret and all!

    A lot of comments mentioned SRK’s “easy in his skin” natural grace. To me, that denotes unawareness, in the sense that you aren’t trying; you just ARE. It’s my biggest beef with the model guys: Hrithik, Arjun Rampal, John Abraham, and the like. Admittedly, they are gorgeous but, many stunning men bow at the altar of that perfection and, as someone said here, they pay cold homage to it, forgetting everything else. Sexiness is the antithesis of cold. It burns with fire generated from within; its heat can’t be put on like a jacket. I’m losing myself in metaphors here, but the point is beauty and sexiness are not necessarily partners. In fact, they frequently don’t go together at all. Ugly, or what the general population might consider unattractive – heft, baldness, scars or pits, irregular features – can add to rather than take away from sexiness. Some folks thought big old Pavarotti was sexy, Gandolfini from Sopranos, Charles Bronson…okay, I’m picking dead guys; just woke up and still woozy. But you get the idea. Who are the drop dead beautiful men today and who are the sexy ones? Are they the same?

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    • In Indian film, I always think of Sanjay Dutt. He can be sexy, and he can be strangely beautiful, but he shouldn’t be. His face doesn’t go together right, his body is too bulky and worn by years, his face is haggard. But he has a strange kind of magnetism that means all of that doesn’t matter.

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        • Yeah, Sanjay just has a special something. I can’t even tell if he is a good actor, I always care about his characters just because it is Sanjay playing them.

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    • I agree Maria, when you say unawareness in the sense that he isn’t trying. I definitely think he’s very self-aware and very in touch with himself AND it’s not something he has to *do*, it’s just how he is. Also your metaphors are making me want to check out your novels! What’s crazy is I was never a romance novel type until I found Indian film.

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  11. Here’s the full video that the visuals of the clip I posted above are from–Dabboo Ratnani 2016 calendar teaser. I have to say Hrithik is attractive and likeable in this. And Arjun R. Ooof. Lots of cute bits but of course Shah Rukh is the cutest.

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