Wednesday Watching Post: What Are You Reading and Watching and Thinking and Listening to the Week of My TOE SURGERY???

Happy Wednesday! It suddenly occurred to me last night, while writing yet another detailed email to my family with toe updates, that my mother had almost the same operation a few years ago, and my sister had a broken shoulder, and my Dad had a whole bunch of things I don’t even know about, without nearly as much worry. Is it possible that I am overly obsessive and stressed about having a minor surgery? Or is it that toe surgery is in fact the most complex and stressful health problem you can possibly have? Oh right, my sister also gave birth. Anyway, TOE SURGERY! The most difficult health problem of our time! (or I am a worrywart who hates being out of control and likes planning things to the inth degree)

I’ll start!

Reading: Gonna blow my own horn just because I think I may have titled this post wrong and therefore people didn’t read it? Last week I wrote a post about Deewar in the context of Amitabh’s early career, rise to stardom, and overall meaning to the public. You should read it! Even though the title wasn’t clear what it was! Post HERE.

Watching: Monday I watched Bhuddha Hoga Tera Baap with Dina, who adores kitschy weird movies like me. And last night I had a movie night and we watched Spyder which is SO GOOD/DUMB. If you like good/dumb action movies, you should watch it. It’s also legitimately creepy a little bit. Oh, and that killed my high speed internet for the month, because I canceled my regular internet for the month that I will be at my parents post-surgery. Most people who do out patient surgery don’t lay awake nights thinking “but, what if I am still paying for internet while I am recovering and not in my apartment?” But that is because those people are wild and carefree and irresponsible. The kind of people who pack suitcases the night before vacations instead of a week in advance. Crazy people.

Thinking: What if my fridge breaks while I am at my parents’ recovering and all my food rots and stinks up the apartment and attracts rats? What if I pack books to read at my parents’, but then I get there and realize the one book I really really want is still at my apartment? What if my car doesn’t start the day of the surgery and I can’t get there and I miss my surgical slot? What if my Dad gets lost on the way to pick me up and isn’t there by closing time and I have to spend the night all alone at the clinic (this may be a left over worry from elementary school)? What if someday I actually let go of things and just relax and have faith they will work out LIKE A FOOL and then EVERYTHING GOES WRONG?!?!?

Listening: Spyder has a really great soundtrack. And my friend thinks that this song is totally the Simon and Garfunkel song, but mixed up a bit. What do you think?

Now, question for you! What do you watch/listen to when your head starts spinning with stupid worries like “what if my fridge breaks while I am gone and all my food rots and attracts wild animals who destroy my apartment”?

You know what is incredibly soothing? The Inner/Outer World of Shahrukh Khan. 2 hours of Shahrukh talking gently about his life, intercut with travelogues of people loving him. It’s the perfect documentary.

30 thoughts on “Wednesday Watching Post: What Are You Reading and Watching and Thinking and Listening to the Week of My TOE SURGERY???

  1. They absolutely got the general idea and the rhythm from that song but A+ for trying to cover it up. Man, Cecilia is a quality song though.

    I always go back to old fan favourites, so depending on how chaotic my head is it’s either endless fun crazy Govinda songs or quiet Shashi songs where I can zone out and feel soothed by his beauty.

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  2. I am thinking that I should answer your questions. Maybe having some answers will help or just make things infinitely worse. Hopefully the former.

    1. What if my fridge breaks while I am at my parents’ recovering and all my food rots and stinks up the apartment and attracts rats? Clean the fridge before you go to your parents house and take what you need from the fridge and put it in your parents’ fridge. This way you are being a wonderful daughter and helping stock their fridge with goodies and you don’t have to worry about the apocolypse.

    2. What if I pack books to read at my parents’, but then I get there and realize the one book I really really want is still at my apartment? Given that you are saving on internet and likely other stuff like groceries and laundry, you can splurge and buy the one book on kindle and then donate your book at home to the local second hand book store.

    3. What if my car doesn’t start the day of the surgery and I can’t get there and I miss my surgical slot? Uber/Lyft seem to still be available options in Chicago. 🙂

    4. What if my Dad gets lost on the way to pick me up and isn’t there by closing time and I have to spend the night all alone at the clinic (this may be a left over worry from elementary school)? You are charming; you can ask one of the nice staff that you will likely have made friends with during your long waiting period in the clinic to take you home at closing time and give him/her some goodies from your fridge as a thank you gift.

    Let me know if any other such thoughts come up between now and surgery time.

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    • You know what I like about these solutions? I don’t have to rely on anyone else! My parents answer is “we’ll be here! your apartment is ten minutes away! We can just do it for you”. But then I have to ask for help and trust other people, and no one wants that.

      More fun worry, I already decided after a long conversation with my friends post-movie last night that the perfect thing to do is paint the toe nails of the other foot, so I still look pretty, but it is a clean surgical field. Plus, they can easily tell which foot is the bad one. But then of course I have to decide, what color do I paint my nails???? Orange is my favorite color, but red is the lucky color, and purple is the color that makes me think of my sister and feel safe, and yellow is the color of happiness, and blue is soothing. TOO MANY OPTIONS!

      On Wed, Jul 22, 2020 at 9:46 AM dontcallitbollywood wrote:

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  3. I also really liked Spyder and that villain origin story was really something. I think the same actor played the villain in Mersal as an evil hospital owner the same year. He just has a face made for playing villains.

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    • And amazing hair! My friend pointed out last night that it is the same haircut as Anton Chiggah from No Country for Old Men.

      On Wed, Jul 22, 2020 at 11:04 AM dontcallitbollywood wrote:

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  4. Yes, just remove the food and turn your fridge off and you won’t have to think about it anymore. + you will save money and the planet 🙂

    An update about my polish trip – I’m finally here! It was the fifth try.
    During the travel I re tried to watch Ishqeria and it’s still TERRIBLE. I’m not sure what I hate so much, but I feel embarrassed that Neil Nithin Mukhesh and Richa Chadha had been in this film. Now I’m wondering is it better to not work or work in a horrible movie?

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    • I am so happy for you! And I am going to go ahead and take it as a good sign that I will also get my difficult long planned thing. Yaaaaaay, POLAND!!!!

      Were you the one who organized the Harivansh Rai Bachchan reading in Wroclaw, by any chance? I was thinking of you when I saw Amitabh’s tweet!

      On Wed, Jul 22, 2020 at 3:27 PM dontcallitbollywood wrote:

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      • Lol Harivansh’s poetry is too sophisticated for me, but If there will be Unni Mukundan or Arjun Kapoor film festival you can be sure I’m behind it 😉.

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  5. I was going to give Hrithik’s advice to Rishi in KKKG: close your eyes and think of your parents. Yours seem way less difficult than his..also, imagine Shah Rukh will be at your bed side when you wake up and trust your parents!!

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  6. So, I ended up watching Indian Matchmaking and my sister, my cousins, and I just had a 2+ hour FaceTime last night to discuss the show and Indian marriage culture. I hate how cringeworthy the show is, yet, I also think the show is a mirror that accurately (as accurately as a scripted reality show can be) shows how many Indians (both in India and America) think and feel, especially urban, “modern,” upper-middle class to rich Indians. It is unfortunately a must watch for my husband and my sister’s future husband if we ever go to India together so they can get an idea of stuff they may be asked and also so that they are at least not terribly shocked by the things that come out of people’s mouths regarding our personal lives.

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    • For that reason, i am kind of happy the show exists? I feel like to outsiders Indian arranged marriages are either seen as some dark ages horror, or not bad at all and we have to respect the culture. Neither us 100% true, im not sure what the truth is, but maybe a reality show is a good start to helping people understand.

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      • I am conflicted. Because I think if a non-Indian with little to no Indian cultural backgrond watches this show, it is – for the most part with some very small exceptions – very much “dark age horror.” It shows the regressive aspects of Indian culture with a very flashy exterior… and maybe it needed to be shown. My sister’s fiance who watched it with her was completely shocked. He just could not understand how people could think this way, but also how comfortable they felt in their views that they were able to say it out loud and justify it as completely normal.

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        • But then it is “reality”, right? From what you are saying, it isn’t even people being cleverly edited or anything, it’s showing the straight up truth of this industry and the people it serves. So if it is “dark age horror”, it’s not false. It’s just not complete, there aren’t the stories of the people who wouldn’t be part of the arranged marriage world at all and therefore aren’t onscreen.

          Maybe in season 2, mix in 2 minute talking heads at the end of love marriage people who give a different open perspective on things.

          Also, you should read my new post where I try to work through all this stuff from the very very narrow path of my own personal experiences.

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  7. Margaret, it sounds like you are as well prepared as anyone could possibly be for your toe surgery. I’m sending good thoughts your way, too.

    But also: Maybe do try to rely just a tiny bit on other people. Otherwise someday you have a wailing toddler clinging to your leg while your wife doesn’t know what’s where in the luggage. Or equivalent, of course.

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    • Blech, relying on other people is the worst! They never do it as well as I would. But yes, I am aware that it might be making my life far harder than it has to be.

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  8. Not much thinking or watching to report since last weekend I worked. However, I’m now on a small vacation and I’m watching Thappad tonight and something else fun tomorrow.

    I believe it is early in the morning (there) on the day of your toe surgery, and I am sparing a good thought that it goes well, nothing happens to your refrigerator, and the books you bring to your parents’ turn out to be exactly the ones you want to read.

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    • Wait, is “something else fun” meaning “Thappad is fun and I will watch something else like Thappad also fun”, or is it meaning “I will watch Thappad, and then something else that is fun unlike Thappad”? I may be a little high right now, but I can’t figure it out.

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