This is a Happy Place, and it will stay a Happy Place. For my own mental health, and that of the people who come here, we will resist negativity. But resisting negativity doesn’t mean resisting sadness. We can be sad, together, and acknowledge that we are feeling sad. And then we can, together, comfort and cheer each other. Choose to make this a place of peace, safety, and love.
Over the weekend, 23 year old Aryan Khan was arrested in a drug bust at a party. Because of who his father is, he has been refused bail again and again, despite not having any drugs on him. And despite numerous other people at that party being released or never arrested to begin with.
There are other places you can go on the internet to talk about the details of the case and express support publicly and so on. This is a place where we can come together and say “I am very sad about a family that I have never met in person, more sad than makes logical sense, but I know this is a place where I will be understood”.
Years ago, when Yash Chopra died, I had a church committee meeting the next day. I was feeling sad and thrown and frankly mourning. And then we went around and did “check in” at the meeting. And one of the committee members talked about their sister starting chemo, another had a friend who was sick, and so on and so forth. And I felt guilty and embarrassed about saying “I am upset because a movie director I have never met died”. So I didn’t say anything, and I missed out on having community support and understanding.
Today I am sad. I am sad because a young man I have watched grow up from a distance is scared and in pain and in jail. I am sad because two parents who I care about deeply, despite never meeting them, are dealing with the unimaginable pain of their son in this position and it being their fault. I want to bring them a casserole, or send them a present. I want to do what I would do if this was a couple in my church or my neighborhood. And I am sad because I can’t do that either.
All I can do is sit here and feel sad. So this is a place for us all to say “I am sad today” and for all of us to understand what you mean and give you hugs and love and support and not make fun of you for it. No rumors, no drama, no negativity. Just love and support and understanding.
(and yes, I will be censoring comments. But please don’t make my job harder by making me read icky comments before I censor them!)