In Honor of Brahmastra Motion Poster, Ranbir Discussion Post!!! Can You Articulate Why You Dislike Him? Personally and/or Professionally?

Elin Star is doing a deep dive in the archives to figure out what is up with Ranbir. But then I realized that the DCIB archives are probably out of date, he keeps living and not-changing, and with every year that passes there are more reasons to dislike him. Or like him, I guess? But if you like him, what are you doing on DCIB? Explain yourself!

I will give my reasons! Personal first:

“Born on first and thinks he hit a home run”

This is a phrase I first ran across as a description of Gwyneth Paltrow, where it also works. But it works EVEN MORE for Ranbir. He is the only Kapoor boy of his generation and therefore literally since birth he was expected to be a movie star, and inherit the family studio. He was given every opportunity, including being sent to New York to study at a for profit acting school on the family dime until he got tired of it and dropped out. And then returned home to be set up with a plush internship job which lead directly to a plush launch film. His struggles were ZERO, ZIP!!!! And yet when you read his interviews, it sees himself as this passionate artist pursuing his dreams against all odds. He is in this bubble of privilege that makes him blind to his privilege.

And this plays into a very dangerous aspect of Indian society in general. Ranbir is rich, Hindu, and male. Therefore, he believes success is his birthright. Achieving it is something to be proud of, losing it is something to be angry about because it is “injustice”, somehow.

Ranbir Kapoor On Failures, Ranbir Kapoor On Success And Failures, -  Filmibeat

Romantic Relationships are There to Serve His Journey

What strikes me about Ranbir in his public romantic relationships is how unbelievably passive he is. This was most noticeable in how he treated Katrina Kaif. First, their romance went public when a photo leaked of them on vacation together, her in a bikini. This created a HUGE backlash against Katrina. Because of misogyny. She was in a bikini in public (shocker!), she had an unacknowledged romantic relationship outside of marriage (horror!), and it wasn’t clear if she was still with her last public boyfriend Salman or cheating on him. In response, Ranbir did…..nothing. This was the best path FOR HIM. It kept his publicity focused on his acting, it kept him out of the fray, it avoided any distractions from his own journey. But meanwhile Katrina was left high and dry facing down the public, her current co-star Aamir Khan and her ex-boyfriend Salman did more to defend her and ease the scandal than the man she was actually seeing! Ranbir did the same thing a few years later, when he moved out of the apartment he was sharing with Katrina. They had had a public housewarming party, it was public knowledge they were living together. And now it was public and obvious that he had moved out. But he issued no statement. Easy for him, to stay at his Grandma’s house and avoid the reporters. Messy for Katrina who was still living in that apartment, who had media camped outside her house. And finally his latest relationship with Alia, his public announcement involved talking about how she made him feel young again, etc. etc. No statement on what she was getting out of the relationship, on what this meant for them as a couple, etc. etc. It’s easy to compare his behavior with literally any other major male star and see the differences, the way everyone else actively protects their romantic partners from the harsh light of publicity instead of just sitting back and doing nothing.

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Who sends their current and ex-girlfriend on a talk show together to defend their behavior?

He is a Peter Pan

Ranbir is turning 40 in a few months. 40!!!! And yet, his behavior and attitude towards life is that of someone in his mid-20s. He moved from his girlfriend’s house to his Grandma’s a few years back, now he is finally living on his own in an apartment decorated for him. It’s not that he isn’t married or has children, it’s that no one expects him to be married or have children. Somehow he has locked himself into that “finding himself, figuring out life” role and refuses to leave it. Other men his age have started their own companies, become the face of charity campaigns, in general shifted to “what can I do for the world” instead of “what can the world do for me”. But not Ranbir. He is just a little boy struggling to find himself.

Ranbir Kapoor On Why Dad Rishi "Kept Fighting" With Him Over Brahmastra
FORTY!!!!

Now, reasons I dislike him professionally:

He Wrongfully Positioned Himself as Better Than Others From the Beginning

I take education probably more seriously than I should. Or, I guess, lying about education. And Ranbir LIES. Right from the start there was this big big thing made about how he went to film school in New York and knew way more than everyone else in India. Two lies here. First, he didn’t go to film school in New York. He went to a for profit school, one that literally anyone can attend if they have the money, and he didn’t even finish his little one year program. This is very different from, for instance, Maneesh Sharma who went to the film program at UCLA which had rigorous acceptance standards, and he actually FINISHED THE PROGRAM. That’s the second lie. Hindi film is full of people with credentials way WAY better than Ranbir’s. Heck, most of his contemporary actors have better credentials than he does. Ranbir presenting himself as this super super smart acting degree person either means he is knowingly lying about his credentials or, more likely, he is so blinded by egotism he legitimately thinks a few months at a for profit film school is more impressive than, for instance, Ranveer Singh minoring in theater at Indiana University and majoring in creative writing.

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Look, you can pay by Credit Card! That’s how you know it’s a classy school

He’s Lazy

I can’t stand a lazy worker! And Ranbir is soooooooooooooooooooooo lazy. He barely makes one film every few years, he is a massive shocking failure as a producer, and he will use any excuse to delay work. And again, in his mind, he is the hardest working person ever. He practiced being deaf for Barfi, wonderful! But, he also took 6 week vacations in the middle of film shots. That’s not hard working. Hard working is practicing your acting skills, and also working 40 hours a week like everyone else in the industry. Again, compare him with literally any of his contemporaries, and you will see how lazy he is.

These Pictures Of Alia Bhatt and Ranbir Kapoor Enjoying A Jungle Safari In  Kenya Will Leave You Longing For A Vacation - HungryBoo | Alia, Ranbir  kapoor, Alia bhatt
Nice they can go on a safari to Kenya together. Odd that Ranbir has failed to finish one movie during the time his girlfriend, who goes on vacation with him, has finished 5 films and produced one of them.

He Refuses To Try New Things

Most actors love trying new things. I’m not saying, like, “doing a super depressing art movie between commercial hits”. I’m saying, like, learning a new action trick. Or doing a dance number on a train. Or wearing a wig. I mean, that’s why you became an actor, right? Because you like playing pretend and doing dress up. Even Super Serious Aamir Khan gets excited about dumb stuff like learning to tap dance, or to rap. It’s FUN. But Ranbir is a wet blanket who won’t do it. No matter what movie it is, he does the same hair, the same clothes, the same dance, the same everything. That’s what was most striking in the Brahmastra poster. Here he is in a superhero movie, and he has the same hair and clothes as in EVERY OTHER FILM. And he’s just standing there, no action moves even, to promote this Action Movie.

58 thoughts on “In Honor of Brahmastra Motion Poster, Ranbir Discussion Post!!! Can You Articulate Why You Dislike Him? Personally and/or Professionally?

  1. All great points. I actually disliked him before knowing anything about him. His eyes are dissipated and he’s a boring screen presence; actually, he has no presence, on or off screen. I don’t even love to hate him, like with Kangana. He is nothing.

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    • I wouldn’t love to hate him, I don’t think, if it weren’t for all those awesome women he keeps messing with!

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  2. I agree with all the reasons above. What annoys me most is that he will never learn/realize his privilege. When SRK’s films didn’t do well…he re-evaluated his career choices… attempted new things and worked harder. If Ranbir’s films continue to flop he will just claim that others can’t see his talent and continue to attend Koffee with Karan where he laments upon his struggles.

    Anyway, my question for you is – why do directors/producers continue to sign him for their roles? Considering he is not hard-working or dependable commercially…why are people still knocking on his door? Now that Ayushman Khurrana, Vicky Kaushal, and Ranveer Singh have established themselves…will producers finally ignore Ranbir?

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    • I mean, they have been ignoring him! He had a burst of signings post-Sanju, but then it’s been 0 films in almost 4 years. Technically he still has upcoming projects, but does he really?

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        • I’m gonna go ahead and say planted. I mean really, Gully Boy? It’s such a perfect Ranveer role!

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      • His biggest crime is that he did not date Anushka Sharma & he thinks ADHM is his dumb film whereas… other stuff is intellectual prolly. He wants to take Saif Intellectual Khan on a camping trip. He likes Pakistani women more than South Indian women. He eats cavier for breakfast. Imagine.. Even his dad was disgusted in his biography. Rishi Kapoor knows. He’s the smartest. Rishi Kapoor was nice to South Indians. So was Raj Kapoor. Ranbir Kapoor is okayish with South Indians. Haven’t seen him being rude or anything. He like football over cricket loser. Plus he wears that pretentious new York camp. Never seen him wear India cap. Jaa na chomu Hollywood mein kar picture, bollywood ke paise kyun kaam raha hai? What else? Well he doesn’t read the news but that’s a good thing. What else? Well he’s a good boy. Didn’t answer back when his dad was being embarrassing in public. These good boys are whatever. Still better than being a bad boy. What else? His hair. Doest have hair on the head. Fake hair. What else? He’s prolly embarrassed of his romantic films instead of loving them equally. Prolly secretly disses them. Prolly thinks intellectual films are the shit. Oh yeah taxi driver types. Idiots. He prolly thinks Godfather is greater than Titanic. Actually it is but still Titanic is equally great. Equally great. Ah yes I remember his pretentious Tika & pretentious I’m reading Debdutt patnaik. Liar. What else? Basically eats caviar for breakfast. Just saying even Rishi Kapoor was horrified.
        Yeah can’t think of anything else. Haven’t seen him be rude to fans. But didn’t date Anushka Sharma so cancelled in my books.

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  3. Yes to everything! Also, to add…

    – History of cheating with partners
    – Entitled ego
    – He’s toxically blinded by devotion fans
    – Bad actor in general compared to his many co-stars who do the heavy lifting
    – Attention hugging while pretending not to be
    – I just get bad and untrustworthy vibes from him

    – Only plus side is that the women he has broken up with have ended up now with MUCH BETTER partners that clearly love them more than Ranbir ever did. So, there is hope for Alia to still get out and find someone better like oh, I don’t know someone like ARK!! He would be great!

    This is why ADHM is one of my favourites where he is a semi-central figure (I refuse to say protagonist, Anushka and Aishwarya are far more interesting than him), he gets called out and punished in narrative and it is so satisfying to see!!

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    • YES! Alia, ESCAPE!!!! Fall in love with the wedding planner or something!

      It is amazing how great Vicky and Ranveer are in comparison. Maybe post-Ranbir you just get really really picky? Like, you would rather be single unless someone absolutely spectacular comes along.

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  4. Whatever I said last time still stands. I will add I have now a HUGE grudge against the heirs with access to the RK studios for letting them get neglected and burned to the ground. They have destroyed not only their own legacy but an international legacy and then cashed in. I will never forgive any one of them for that.

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    • And another thing I really dislike about him is continuing the grand Kapoor tradition of not giving a shit about the women in the family. Shashi’s kids all have responsibilities, his daughter runs the theatre and is head of that legacy and the others support her in that. We all know Kareena has been the head of the family cinematically for what, 20 years? but he acts like he is and gives the girls 0 credit. It’s not the 50s anymore, idiot.

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      • And his mother too!!!! So much talk about the acting he learned from his father, and on and on, but nothing about what (if anything) he learned from his mother.

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        • Oh my. I get he had a distorting family background, but that’s something that usually draws me to someone, possibly unhealthily. He’s an exception though. Maybe not enough survived, l dunno.

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          • I think he crosses that line of “yes you had a bad childhood, but plenty of people had the same sort of childhood, and they didn’t all turn out to be horrid miseries”. Does that make sense? Like, at a certain point, you can no longer say “this, so inevitably no matter what I can’t even bother to fight it, that”.

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    • I’ll forgive Rishi for that. At least, the last bit, when he was dying of cancer and realized his brothers and son were never going to step up. I get the feeling that he really truly tried until the last few years and just couldn’t make it work. Still mad at him for not bringing in Kareena to help, or doing anything more aggressive earlier instead of just waiting for his son to be Brilliant. But the last few years, yeah, Rishi had nowhere else to go.

      Won’t forgive Ranbir! For SURE!!!! He didn’t even seem to show up at the office ever.

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        • How about, WHY DIDN’T YOU SAVE THE STUDIO INSTEAD OF GOING ON VACATIONS AND REFUSING TO PERFORM AT WEDDINGS, YOU LAZY SOD?

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  5. He had different hair style and glasses in Jagga Jassos, we should appreciate it 😉

    It’s funny how we see him as someone who doesn’t experiment with things, because today I read what his fans write in web and they all say he is the one who experiments the most in Bollywood. I must admit, Jagga Jassos was different, and Brahamastra is something new also (as a genre, not sure how his characters are).

    I dont like him as an actor because his films are annoying, and he is mediocre in acting and in looks.
    Personally he doesn’t look like a good person, but what made me dislike him the most is how he treated his girlfriends. All of them had bad experience with him. I read an old Katrina interview few days ago and it was so sad. Such a beautiful woman, a movie star but so full of sadness and doubts.
    Bonus things to hate him – his family is terrible.

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    • Yes! You would think it was Kat’s relationship with a man almost twice her age when she was a teenager etc. etc. that would be damaging. But no! She came out of the Salman relationship blooming, it was stupid Ranbir who wore her down.

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    • I actually really like Jagga Jassos. I liked Ranbir in it. I didn’t love him in Barfi, or really any other movie. But I like Jagga Jassos.

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  6. Ha, I decided to visit on the right day! Was beginning to wonder if I am alone in finding Ranbir as the laziest, mediocre actor whom the rest of the world is hyping away to glory. Even some of the sanest people I know are ‘dying’ to see Ranbir back on screen- to see another man-child role, I suppose. I may dislike him too much but cdnt help thinking that the whole timing of the motion poster launch for a movie coming out late next year is actually his ego massage for his ex hogging the national attention with her marriage to a younger, flavour-of-the-season guy. Not sure if you saw the ‘cute, romantic’ conversation btw him & Alia at the poster launch. The PDA by the 40 year old man will beat that of any needy teenager poking his girlfriend to declare her love for him to the world. He oh-so-sweetly made fun of Alia for feeling emotional about the poster while pointing out that she is not on the poster. He ensures he gets talked about through his successful girlfriends, while maintaining his disinterested, passionate artist facade which his fans will die protecting. Ugh!

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  7. Oh wow! Just came up for air from previous Ranbir posts for a sec, and there’s all this! Well thank you amazing dcib-ers, my gut reaction is thoroughly explained, although I still cannot believe he’s been cast as a demigod, unless it’s going to be tongue-in-cheek. Terry Pratchett called it charisntma – there’s something about him in any scene that makes my eyes slide away in search of something else to look at. Anything else. Kind of like pages of small print on an insurance policy, makes my eyes burn. From what you’ve said, he looks exactly like he is irl, its like he’s the Avatar of Mansplaining, and l want to hit him before he can speak. Sort of fascinated by the phenomenon though, maybe we could do a watchalong sometime? Not the one where he kills his girlfriend by sex though, GOSH.

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      • I just googled it – euweuweuw EUW serial cheatingl! And Katrina! Why on earth would… never mind. They have at least moved on to better things now. Alia and Ayan seem to be weirdly glued in places with increasingly ghostly Ranbir according to recent photos, maybe there should be an exorcism..

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        • Yes, he is definitely an ICK. Why do all these woman go insane???? If you can find the Sonam-Deepika Koffee with Karan episode, it is a DELIGHT. And also, yes, Ayan needs to figure out what he is doing with Ranbir. It’s like Karan and SRK, but SO much more unhealthy.

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          • This KwK episode and what happened after was the first reason for me to think there’s something wrong with this guy. I mean he was like over 30 maybe and his dad and mom had to defend him. I know Rishi was a very impulsive guy but c’mon. And he said something like: “those girls don’t have class. They should focus on work because so far they are famous only thanks to their fathers. ” And why your son is famous Rishi? Or you? And maybe if your son had class, there wouldn’t be girls talking bad thinks about him in tv, didn’t you think abut it?

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          • Yes!!! The girls just spoke the truth. Ranbir cheated on them and then needed his daddy to come defend him. Ugh!!!

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          • I’ll give you another twist! This was far from the last time Rishi defended him. Doing it once, sure, Dads get impulsive. But doing it multiple times? That means Ranbir never pulled him aside and said “Dad, you really shouldn’t do that”. He probably just passively ignored it like he ignores all interpersonal problems.

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          • yes and you know for me that was a revelation when sonam said that and deepika said Thank you. I didnt know back then what really happened, i knew his real face that day. And regarding why girls go gaga on him. Its simple. He is a narc, women mostly are empathetic people, narcissists feed on empathetic people. By the way do anyone here watched the screen patti video of vicky kat marriage? That is great stuff for ranbir haters cz even they ignored ranbir all throughout the video and when they mention it, it was a befitting insult.https://youtu.be/A53QrH0IHRw
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      • Oh yeah she did! And far FAR worse, she got his initials tattooed on the back of her neck. UCK! What kind of boyfriend would enjoy having his brand on the back of your neck?

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        • Ugh! Yes, but I have to wonder at DP in this. She has the option not to fan the flames – not to go on talk shows with Alia, get drawn into discussions about him (especially when she’s married and moved on). She could get her tattoo removed.

          Once she does that, he will no longer have even the little bit of relevance that he does.

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          • To be fair, she did get the tattoo altered. But yes, I think she is just TOO NICE!!!! She went on the second talk show because I think she felt bad about the first talk show? But WHY???? She has nothing to feel bad about! Unless Ranbir is making her feel guilty.

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          • it seems to me she is just fanning the flames of publicity in order not to burn her bridges in Bollywood. That is so ugh! Btw, have you seen the trailer for her new movie with Siddhanth Chaturvedi? I like the vibes, and am happy to see her experimenting with straight to streaming movies.

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  8. I agree with parts of this …
    He is a very dull actor and so many more talented people are forgotten about because he is branded as an amazing actor despite all of his failures ..
    Personality wise too he always seemed dull to me
    But I do have to add one thing — I did meet him in person. I met both him and Katrina Kaif and the reactions were completely different
    Ranbir was very friendly and polite, he seemed very down to earth in those moments at least , he chatted with me for 3-4 minutes
    Katrina was rude and I was really shocked, i said hi ! i cannot believe i am meeting you and she didnt smile and then i said can i please take a photo with you and she said ummmm no and walked away without smiling
    I felt very embarrased and snubbed and i dont know why but I always felt she would be a nice person
    But the crazy thing is …. after meeting her i googled “meeting katrina kaif in person” to see if maybe it was just a bad day and i wanted to see other peoples experiences
    and there were so many stories from other people talking about similar reactions when they met her and one of those people even used the exact words she used for me!! “ummm no” i was shocked
    but there were also people who met her and said she was nice
    but i know 2 other people who met ranbir , a distant friend worked with him for an advertisment and another friend who met him at a hotel and they all said the same thing , that he was very nice and laid back and seemed very humble
    at the same time, i did not have very favorable opinion of him before meeting him but i was pleasantly surprised
    i agree with some things you said and even now he sometimes gets on my nerves but i have a better opinion of him from how he treats fans at least

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  9. I have heard similar to Shweta from people who had encounters with both of them – Ranbir super down to earth and shy and approachable with everyone who works or interacts with him and Katrina aloof and critical of staff etc. Who knows! Still not great how he’s been about all these women in the press and possibly real life….

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  10. I was actually a big Ranbir fan when he started and thought he had a lot of potential, then was increasingly puzzled that he just wasn’t fulfilling it and being so boring and safe in interviews at the same time. The last straw was his capitulation to the Hindu right and current leadership which he and his family have been doing in various bizarre ways for the last few years. I’m sure they’ve been pressurised and coerced but he just doesn’t stand for anything good and it’s boring and off putting. Also I still find it really hard to believe this relationship with Alia is real, I don’t know why! He doesn’t seem to feel anything.

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  11. I’m trying to figure out when Neetu’s film “Chorni” was filmed, in the course I looked up when she got married and started having kiddoes. Seeing Ranbir’s birthdate blew my mind. This sucker’s nearly forty?! If it looks like a child and quacks like a child. . .

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    • YES!!!!! He’s FORTY!!!! Shahid Kapoor is one year older than him, has 2 kids, has been married over 5 years, and has moved into the mature portion of his career where he is done experimenting with his persona and moved on to taking roles he really really likes.

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      • Lord, but it boggles the mind. I’m feel like I’m actually more or less Ranbir-neutral, but realizing he is a real-life manchild sours me on him more.

        Anyway, it’s probably healthier to focus on the Kapoors that do make me happy, on the topic of which, “Chorni” is a really sweet little film. Neetu sings this cute song while doing cute crimes!

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        • Yes! The GOOD Kapoors!!! And by the way, Neetu was a mother of the bride at age 46. Which sort of puts into stark contrast, her son who is still “finding himself” or whatever at age 40. And at 52, she had a glorious return to acting which resulted in critical acclaim and fond memories of her previous career. TWELVE YEARS OLDER THAN RANBIR IS NOW!!!!

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  12. It’s funny that you say he keeps living and not changing, and my reasons for hating Ranbir haven’t really changed either. ADHM still leaves a sour taste in my mouth whenever I think about it, and I haven’t really dived into him personally or professionally since, aside from watching a couple more movies. I just don’t wanna waste my time learning about someone I don’t even like.

    But, as an Alia fan, I don’t like what he’s doing to her. And that I can’t really articulate. Not abuse, no way. I think someone in a comment said she seems really fake nowadays, and I kind of agree, but I think it’s been happening since she went very public with Ranbir. Maybe it’s because I love her and I don’t like him and I want him with someone else who sucks. But I did just stumble on this video on Instagram of them leaving…somewhere. He was running ahead to try and beat the paps, and she was walking more slowly with Shaheen, I think. But then the paps hounded the women and they were forced to move more slowly and Ranbir was nowhere in sight. Two years into a relationship, engagement rumors flying, and you can’t even look out for her? How can you defend that?

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