Veere Di Wedding Review (SPOILERS): Feminist By Building Up Female Characters Without Tearing Down Male

I’m gonna suggest you don’t spoil yourself for this one.  Beyond knowing that none of the disappointing shallow views of female friendship that the trailer promised actually happened.  No drunken fight to wait for, no jealousy over a man, not even an evil domineering mother.  But as for what actually does happen, if at all possible, try to let it play out for you as it was meant to be played, just read the no spoilers review and save this review for after you have seen it on the big screen.

Whole plot in 4 characters:

Shikha Talsani was the insecure one in high school, sure her traditional Sikh father was going to marry her off to some boring man.  In the present day, she is married to a wonderful supportive funny American white man who is trying to learn Hindi for her.  But she went against her family to marry him and hasn’t spoken to them since, or even told them she had a baby.  Over the course of preparing for Sonam’s wedding, it comes out that she wants to reconcile with her father, is willing to give him a chance, but is afraid he will say he can’t accept her son which would break her heart.  It also comes out that (although the marriage is supportive and understanding and funny), they haven’t had sex since the baby was born because she is insecure about her body after birth.  Her friends encourage her and tell her she is beautiful, and she returns home with her libido restored to finally have sex with her husband.  And at the wedding, her father to shows up, he came with a toy car for her son and learns (at the same time as the audience, since the girls always referred to him as just “Big Papa” so we didn’t know his name) that Shikha named her son for her father, despite the estrangement.

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Swara Bhaskar was the adventurous free spirit in high school, planning to run off to Prague after graduation and not worry about the future.  In the present she is unhappily in the process of a divorce, back home with her parents and stumbling home after being out all night, always smoking, always drinking.  She is angry with her husband, there doesn’t seem to be any love there, but upset about the divorce because of what it is doing to her parents, they gave her her dream (very very very expensive) wedding and now she is home again and they are dealing with rumors that she was cheating and that’s why the marriage ended.  Swara finally admits to her friends what really happened, everyone was right, she wasn’t really in love and didn’t really know him well enough.  Once they were in London, they fought all the time.  He tried to make her into the perfect housewife, and then complained that she looked like a maid because she had spent the whole day cooking.  After a final big fight, when she told him she was going back to India, he came home early to find her masturbating with a vibrator.  Which so shocked him that he insisted on a divorce, and started spreading the word that he had caught her “cheating”.  And now he is holding her up for a big pay out before he will end the marriage cleanly. With the support of her friends, Swara decides to tell her parents everything and get the divorce no matter what.  Her parents surprise her by laughing at the story and being supportive, it is all okay now that they actually know what happened, and of course they don’t want her to stay with a man who treated her like a servant.

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Sonam was gooey and in love in high school, sure that her boyfriend Arjun was “the one” and they would be together for ever, she even picked her college for him.  In the present day, she bumps into Arjun, now married and with a child, and says that he must have gotten over not wanting kids, and he looks uncomfortable.  It also comes out that she was in a relationship with her boss until recently, not knowing that he was married with kids. And Sonam’s mother keeps nagging her to get married, despite her being a very successful divorce lawyer.  Sonam meets with a potential groom from a matrimonial website, also a lawyer, very nice and proper, but wants her to sign a prenup.  She invites him to Kareena’s Sangeet and, with her friends’ encouragement, tries to kiss him.  At which point he calls it off, saying he wanted a wife not a prostitute, and Sonam finally stands up for herself, pointing out that she was even willing to sign a prenup for him and just because of a kiss, he is now giving up everything, clearly he didn’t really want a modern educated bride, he just wanted a perfect maid and worshipper.  And then, high on anger and a little drunk, Sonam impulsively sleeps with the pushy overly flirty cousin of the groom.  The whole experience, plus talking it out with her friends, makes Sonam finally talk to her mother and tell her that she tried, but she just can’t do the arranged marriage thing, and she is sorry.  Her mother accepts that, but says she is still going to keep pushing, because that is who she is.  And at the end, the cousin of the groom gets Sonam’s phone number from her mother and Sonam agrees to a real “date”, despite him not being marriage material, indicating that she is no longer obsessed with marriage, she is just happy with her life as is and will take relationships as they come.

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Kareena is the bride, and the one with the most complicated subtle emotional journey.  Hers was the house they all gathered in as children, partly because her parents were so cool, her funny loving Dad, her strong classy mother, and her delightful gay uncle.  But on the inside it wasn’t perfect, her parents fought all the time, and after her mother died, her father remarried within months.  Her uncle was furious at the remarriage and moved out of the family home, locking it behind him.  Now Kareena’s father and young stepmother hardly talk to her, her uncle and his partner are the ones she is close to and the house she returns to in Delhi, and the loss of her mother is still a wound.  Kareena ran to Australia after her mother’s death and is still living there, she has been with her boyfriend for 3 years, they live together, they are in love, and he proposes.  He knows marriage doesn’t mean much to her and she doesn’t want it, but he does.  And so out of love for him, Kareena agrees.  She arrives in Delhi to be swamped by his family, they all love her and welcome her, but it is a bit too much, they want to throw this huge wedding with a thousand guests, they want to buy her all this jewelry, his mother calls her the daughter she always wanted, the whole family thinks she is a perfect angel.  Kareena leans on her friends, but at the engagement party they all let her down, each dealing with their own issues, plus her father and uncle get into a physical fight, and her fiancé goes missing with his own family stuff, and finally when he is putting the ring on her as part of the engagement ceremony, she complains about his family, and he says without thinking “you don’t understand because you don’t have any family” and she shoves him, he falls and gets knocked out, and she runs away.  The next day everyone is trying to find her, but her friends know where she is, at the old closed up house.  They go there with the fiancé, she talks to him, he apologizes, she apologizes, and then says that she loves him but the marriage just isn’t going to work and calls off the wedding.  And then goes to talk to her friends who try to convince her not to call it off, which leads to her throwing in their faces that none of them were there for her the night before.  Each goes to their own separate corner to cool down, and then Swara sends out an invite suggesting they go on a weekend getaway to Thailand, just to recover from everything.  While there, they each share their secrets and come to their own decisions, Kareena returns home wanting to talk to her fiancé and learns his father has been arrested for passing bad checks to pay for the wedding that ended up being canceled.  Kareena goes to him, and gets Sonam to use her lawyer skills to get the father out, but is still planning to say good-bye, since he has to stay in India indefinitely to straighten out his father’s problems.  Until her friends take a hand, realizing that the reason Kareena has such a hard time with marriage is because she doesn’t feel like she has a real family behind her.  They force her father and uncle to make peace, and get her father to finally talk to her.  He acknowledges that he and her mother always fought, but that doesn’t mean they didn’t love each other and weren’t a family in their own way.  And her father still loves her now.  Finally, her father and her uncle give her the deed to the family house.  Kareena goes to find her fiancé and surprises him (with his mother’s help) by proposing in turn.  He gives her back the ring.  And they get married at her family home with her friends in attendance.

(Whole cast together, Shikha’s nice white husband dancing for her and letting her dance with her friends, the bearded dude Sonam is considering dating, and Kareena’s nice fiance, plus Kareena’s uncle and his partner, and the fiancee’s enthusiastic dancing parents)





Sorry that got kind of long!  But really it can all be summarized by the title.  “Veere” means big brother in Punjabi, I guess the more common Hindi equivalent would be “Bhai”.  The gang of girls calls each other their “Veere”.  Not friends, not sisters, “veere”.  Because the kind of friendship they have isn’t something that can be encompassed by the usual Indian terminology.  It’s a particular kind of female friendship, one that (as I mentioned in my no spoilers review) doesn’t come to all women.  But for the women in this film, it makes sense.  All but Shikha seem to be only children, and Shikha seems to be one of many children.  None of them seem to have those actual “veere” around, no brothers or cousin-brothers to help, and no sisters, no age mates to be with you, so you look for that in friendship.  In Indian culture, your big brother is supposed to be there for you cradle to grave, he will raise you if your parents die (even if he is just a child himself, he is supposed to somehow find a way), he will get you married, he will guarantee your happy marriage, he will defend you, he will protect you, he will do everything for you.  And that’s also what some female friends are like.  They aren’t just women to gossip with and share secrets, they are that strong protector and defender and guarantee for your whole life long.  Kareena is the one who most needs protection at the moment, the bride at a wedding is always in a vulnerable place.  And so her “veere” gather around her, support her, defend her, protect her.  Not like sisters or friends, not in the vision those words usually bring up, but as “veere” would.  Even the wedding invitation, rather than a picture of the bride and groom or the bride’s parents or anything traditional, is a sketch Kareena’s mother drew of the 4 friends.  It is Sonam and Swara and Shikha who are there to host and arrange this marriage from the bride’s side, no one else, the most important job a “veere” has.

That’s the biggest statement of the film, that female friendship (a relationship usually nonexistent in Indian film) is the most powerful driving force for Kareena’s life and marriage, that these 4 friends are the ones who make things happen for each other more than anyone else.  But beyond that, there are all kinds of other forgotten relationships, or ignored relationships, that are brought to the front.  Early on, Sonam is in the middle of a bride meeting and is told to bring in the tea, and the prospective groom is sent to “help” her.  Only, Sonam comes into the kitchen to find the maid crying with a bruised face, and immediately picks up a clearly long running argument, asking her to let Sonam arrange her divorce.  Sonam isn’t pushing it, no more than any friend would, not in a “I will make you do this because I am your employer way, just as a friend”.  And it’s an important conversation that both woman are clearly caring about deeply.  And then the groom comes into the middle of it, asking if he can help, and Sonam distractedly hands him the tray of tea and orders him to bring it in.

In most other films, the groom would follow her into the kitchen, find her with the crying maid, there would be a cute misunderstanding, love would blossom, etc. etc.  The crying maid, and the conversation between the two women, would be just a device to set up the romance.  But in this film, it is the romance that is set aside as unimportant.  The conversation between the two women, the relationship between maid and mistress (a very close one that is rarely shown on film beyond a few words in the background), that is what matters.

(Dear Zindagi is another film that did a good job with this, showing the friend relationships and the close maid relationship)

Kareena’s marriage troubles have nothing to do with her groom, he is a perfectly nice person.  No, it is an internal battle, that Kareena expertly shows to the audience with only the subtlest facial expressions, between Kareena’s dead mother and her living mother-in-law.  That’s a universal part of marriage, trying to reconcile in your own heart how you manage to have two families without being unfaithful to one or the other.

The only other time I have seen this battle on screen was in the Telugu film Anand.  And in that case, the living mother-in-law was a complete nightmare, our heroine simply wanted to wear her mother’s wedding sari and wasn’t even allowed to do that, leading her to finally once and for all end the engagement.  In this case, the groom’s mother Ayesha Raza Mishra (who I recognized immediately but couldn’t remember where from.  I just looked it up, she was in Befikre and Dil Dhadakne Do doing similarly interesting unexpected matron roles) is too loving and welcoming.  She wants Kareena to call her “Ma”, she wants to pick out her clothes and shower her with love, she wants to give her a dream wedding.  But it doesn’t matter how nice she is, she isn’t Kareena’s mother.  Which means she doesn’t know Kareena, which means Kareena is losing herself and her own identity within this marriage.

(Come to think of it, both the fiance’s parents in this movie were in Dil Dhadakne Do.  They must specialize in character and relationship driven films set in wealthy Delhi society)

That’s what marriage is about, in the end, two people figuring out how to become one but still stay two at the same time.  And that’s what can be so terrifying for women about marriage.  Not for men in most cultures, because most cultures have a tradition of the man being the head of the house, setting the tone, it is the woman who has to adjust.  And so marriage is seen as the death knell for your own identity, who you were before.  Even in the best possible case, when this lovely loving enthusiastic woman just wants to make Kareena happy, she is still making Kareena change who she is.

That’s what all of the 4 stories are about, weddings and what they do to women.  Shikha has a happy marriage, but she got it by giving up her past, her family.  The marriage is who she really is, the person before marriage was her fake self, and she was glad to let it go.  But now she is beginning to consider if she has the strength to turn backwards and try to integrate that past self with her present.  Swara tried to lose herself, to be a good wife, but couldn’t, wasn’t able to change herself that much, and the film shows that no one should have to change themselves that much, she married a man she ultimately had nothing in common with and didn’t even like, she couldn’t lose every part of herself in order to make the marriage work.  And Sonam is cheerfully planning to do just that, to agree to whatever it takes in order to marry this very nice appropriate correct husband.  And then discovers that she can never be what he is looking for, because what he is looking for doesn’t exist, he wants a modern successful woman, who will be a completely traditional wife.  And so Sonam says good-bye to the whole idea of marriage for herself, and instead decides to just be herself and let that be enough.

And none of this is culture specific.  Even arranged marriages, at least the version shown here.  Sonam is just talking about meeting guys her mother picks out for her with the idea of marriage.  Her experiences aren’t that different from what would happen anywhere once you get to be past a certain age and if you have a certain kind of parent.  Most of the film is about love and relationships and friendship and mothers and fathers and weddings and all the things that are the same almost everywhere in the world.  And I have to say, this movie got that stuff right better than any film I have seen from any culture.  The challenge of a bride without a mother, the awkwardness of trying to put a name to nameless relationships (like Kareena with her uncle’s partner) as you explain them to these new family members, the feeling that you are somehow losing track of yourself, who you are on the inside, as all these new people put on you who they think you should be, all of this is a layer of complexity most films don’t bother with.  They go for more of what the trailers for this movie promised, wacky wedding hijinks, misunderstandings, slamming door farce.  The film masters the culturally universal, and the emotionally specific, all while dealing with the emotions that never get the screen time they deserve.


One final thing, this is the rare film that manages to be feminist without demonizing men in any way.  There are no evil male characters in this film.  Not even Sonam’s horrible arranged marriage prospect, he’s not “evil”, he’s just caught up in false standards and hypocrisy.  The only really “evil” characters are the gossiping aunties who make fun of Swara’s parents for being depressed and having a failure as a daughter.  On the other hand, there are also no saintly male characters.  Kareena’s boyfriend gets impatient and lets slip the truly horrible comment that she has no family.  And he also is a little selfish, wants to get married for himself even though he knows Kareena doesn’t want it.  But he knows he said a terrible thing and shows up the next day ready to apologize and take responsibility.  And when she calls off the wedding, he lies to his parents that he is the one who ended it, does the right thing there too.  He’s human, mostly good but not always perfect.  Kareena’s father appears to be “evil” too, possibly cheated on her mother, married too soon, never spends time with his daughter.  But in the end we learn he was just human too, even though it’s easy for children to think their fathers are infallible, he isn’t.  He fought with her mother because that’s how they were.  He married soon because he was lonely.  And he doesn’t know how to talk to Kareena without her mother to help, so he just stopped trying.  He’s not evil, he’s just flawed like anyone else.  The same is true for Shikha’s father, who welcomes her half-white son without hesitation, even if he had a hard time with her white husband.  And on and on, every male character is good and bad at the same time.  Instead of focusing on tearing down the male characters, this film tries to build up the female.  Kareena doesn’t forbid her brothers from carrying her veil because they are evil, it is just more right for her friends to have that honor, because they are more “brothers” to her than anyone else around.


18 thoughts on “Veere Di Wedding Review (SPOILERS): Feminist By Building Up Female Characters Without Tearing Down Male

  1. I liked more things in the movie than I didn’t like, and that was great!
    I actually completely got Kareena’s reason for not wanting a marriage. Most movies use this trope – men are commitment phobes because Just!, but women are commitment phobic only because the parents have had a bad marriage (OK Kanmani) and that’s always felt superficial to me. But in this movie, I completely got the animosity in her parents’ marriage. And you’re right, a girl getting married without her mom is just the saddest thing.
    Swara-Sonam are really good friends, in that scene where they’re in the loo – it didn’t look fake. They looked completely like besties, and Shikha as well. And loved her track with her American husband, was so cute and realistic. I have Indian friends whose American husbands are more “Indian” than they are. And Sonam was good, much better than she was in the trailer.
    What I didn’t like – I just felt Kareena to be a little detached from the remaining three. Maybe its cos we’re used to seeing her longer or I dunno what. The other 3 just seemed like a tighter unit. And Swara had ciggy in every scene- fine we get it that shes a smoker but every scene was a bit much.


    • Finally! Someone else who has seen this movie so we can talk!

      The trailer did such a disservice to the proposal scene, made it look like “ha-ha, modern woman doesn’t want to get married”. But it made complete sense when we saw it, Kareena wasn’t just heartlessly commitment phobic, she had all kinds of repressed emotions tied up in marriage, and was willing to try to get past them for the sake of the man she loved. The film even gave us enough to make sense of her boyfriend wanting to get married, his parents were wonderful and he had this large happy family, of course he wouldn’t have any fear of marriage and would want to take the natural next step.

      I loved the bathroom scene. They were so comfortable together, and so wonderfully silently supportive. Swara had great chemistry with Shikha too. But you are right, Kareena felt slightly distanced from the others, Swara and Sonam were a team, Shikha and Swara had fun together, Sonam and Shikha a little too, but Kareena not so much. Although, maybe that made sense with her character? It seemed like even in the flashback, she was keeping her parents arguing from her friends, a little more closed off. And she ran off to Australia, separating herself from the rest of them a little bit. Shikha was in America but clearly still connected to the rest of the group. Swara and Sonam felt like they had developed their own special connection since they were the only two left in Delhi.

      And I love the American husband SO MUCH. He wasn’t a perfect white guy (rich and wise and so on) and he wasn’t even that handsome, but he was just really really nice and ready to go along with whatever Shikha needed. And also clearly had a good relationship with her friends and could roll with the punches with whatever she needed and would answer the phone and talk her down when she was freaking out over seeing her father by accident.

      Agree about Swara smoking. I ended up fanwanking that she was just doing it for show, it was the most obvious way for her to announce to the world that she was a bad girl and just didn’t care any more, so she just did it to get the aunties all upset.

      On Mon, Jun 4, 2018 at 6:12 PM, dontcallitbollywood wrote:



      • Ya totes loved Shikha’s husband and Sumit Vyas too! None of the men (except for maybe Swara’s husband) were stereotyped. It would’ve been so easy to paint the men in broad strokes. Also loved that even in sad sequences, the girls would find some humor in there somewhere.


        • Swara’s husband was pretty bad, but I loved that the marriage fell apart without any infidelity. That’s what everyone was assuming and it would have been so easy. He wasn’t physically abusive either. The two things that are the usual “bad husband” things, the simple answers, he didn’t do them. And it was still a bad marriage, it can be a bad marriage without the infidelity or abuse.

          On Tue, Jun 5, 2018 at 12:57 AM, dontcallitbollywood wrote:



  2. Thoughts on this much anticipated female bonding movie…
    – 3 words: Ménage à Moi! 😀
    – Sonam gives good face. Impossibly lovely here.
    – But couldn’t take my eyes off Swara wherever she was on screen. Played her character right at the edge without going overboard.
    – Kareena’s multi-layered character was a particularly challenging role. Maybe her most challenging with since Jab We Met.
    – Shikha got less to do but nailed her role like a natural.
    – I loved that the storylines involved the men but were about the ladies, and never strayed from that mission statement.
    – The storylines are slightly convoluted. I’ll need to watch it again on Netflix to make sure I understood it all.
    – The dudes were all engaging. The Ginger was a good sport lol. Kareena’s dude looked like Randeep Hooda circa Monsoon wedding.
    – I can’t help wondering if having semifamous actors like John, Randeep, Rahul would have elevated the chemistry a bit.
    – This movie is a worldwide blockbuster because they got the target demo right. Narrowly focus on the 18-49YO rising urban middle class, because everyone else is watching Netflix at home nowadays, this is the only demo that’s looking for stuff to do outside the home and has the disposable income for it.
    – Overall, not fantastic, but pretty good, and well worth the ticket price and the trip to the cinema. I’d like to support and encourage efforts like this with my ticket purchase.
    – More movies like this please! Popcorn entertainment starring the ladies and about the ladies!


    • -Such a satisfying plot point! Maybe the ultimate boundary breaking moment of honesty from the film. Women have needs and don’t necessarily need a man to fulfill them. And really puts her husband’s horribleness in perspective. You know if Kareena or Shikha or Sonam’s (ultimate) Dude had walked in on that, they would have just been like “okay, you’re busy, we’ll talk later”.

      -Yep! And her costuming is perfect. They really took their time to make the clothes help tell the story of the characters. Sonam’s are so fashion forward while still modest, it’s perfect for her character’s openmindedness while still wanting something traditional for herself.

      -You’re right, any other actress and Swara’s character would have been hateful. But she put in those little touches that made you see she was hating herself on the inside, acting out because she didn’t feel she deserved to be happy.

      -Yep. I can’t decide if Kareena isn’t offered these kinds of roles enough, or if she just doesn’t want them and prefers the simple fun stuff, or if she wants them but doesn’t have the energy to chase after them (like Rani and Vidya do). It also reminded me of her performance in Talaash. Which has the overly obviously artificial top layer, and all those broken emotions underneath.

      -Yeah, Shikha had a lot of wordless moments that she sold perfectly, especially the way she related to her son, you could real feel the love and exhaustion and everything else of motherhood, it didn’t feel like an actress who had just been handed a kid for the scene

      -Yes! The men were part of their lives, because that is just reality, but they were the ones who were changing and growing and making decisions.

      -I had the hardest time with the opening scene, they were dropping all this information about who the girls were in high school and it was too fast for me to follow, and I didn’t know who was who yet, and so on. I think I pieced it together eventually, but I’m still not totally clear. And I’m not clear on what was happening exactly with Kareena’s parents’ marriage either.

      -Yep, totally a cut-rate Randeep Hooda. They all did a great job though. Except I can’t decide if Sonam’s ultimate Dude was the right casting. It felt like he was supposed to be the eager lower class guy not up to her exacting standards of attractiveness, but it didn’t really come through for me. Might have been interesting if they cast someone like Kunaal Roy Kapur, who was clearly physically less attractive than the other men.

      -I am sure they didn’t go for the famous actors because they didn’t have the money/time. It sounds like this was a real passion project for all the women so they cut their rates and arranged their schedules, but I don’t know if they could have gotten famous actors for it. And then if they had, all the promotions would have been about the couples instead of the 4 friends. Setting aside all of that, in a perfect world, I think you are right. These dudes were fine, but someone with a higher profile and more experience might have been interesting playing opposite them.

      -Yep, that’s what I thought too looking at the box office. And at the crowd in my movie theater. It also didn’t completely turn off the family audience, what with the wedding setting and all it was reassuringly familiar. So you get a nice mixture of young people with disposable income, and the regular audience. What’s really smart is that they targeted the young people audience. This is the crowd that should have been watching Jab Harry Met Sejal, but didn’t, because it was promoted as a happy family rom-com instead of as adult and complex and groundbreaking.

      -Yes please!!!!! At least we have Happy Bhaag Jayegi 2 coming out, which has Diana Penty and Sonakshi, so hopefully there will be a friendship there too.

      On Wed, Jun 6, 2018 at 9:08 AM, dontcallitbollywood wrote:



      • I think Kareena’s just lazy. She always prefers doing movies wheer you can take lesser effort and lesser days to shoot. She let go of RamLeela and did Gori something with Imraan Khan. Now I don’t like RL but she just can’t do what Sonam does. Sonam chased The Zoya Factor (book changed so many PHs) and pretty much got it financed. I don’t think Kareena has that kind of patience. Also Sonam has Rhea to back her up in all of this.
        Even costumes – before Aisha, don’t think anyone thought that you can use clothes as a story point. Now with grooming being uber-important in the 15-45 group, it’s easy to find a loyal audience there.


        • Sonam has Rhea, and also Anil. I still wonder what would have happened if the Kapoors had fully backed Karisma and Kareena instead of hanging them out to dry.

          On Wed, Jun 6, 2018 at 6:02 PM, dontcallitbollywood wrote:



          • They can hardly manage their own careers, except for Rishi so don’t think they’d do a good job. Also not very good at logistics n all. The banner wouldn’t be this dormant if they were slightly more self motivated. They’d have at least gotten outside directors to make a few movies. But yeah Karisma would’ve benefitted from not having to do all those trashy movies. Kareena’s career would’ve been the same I reckon..


  3. Ok I really liked the movie, I don’t get why there is a lot of backlash. I didn’t expect much from the trailer, I thought that the men would be all sexist pigs like other female bonding movies. But everybody was really nice and normal except Swara’s husband. And Kareena, Shikha and Swara were really good. Sonam, I don’t think I’ll ever get used to her voice. All in all it was a nice, light fun movie.


    • Glad to hear it! That was my big take away too, that it managed to be a female bonding movie without making the men horrible, which is wonderful.

      And the trailer was certainly clear that this would be a raunchy explicit film, I don’t know why people are surprised by that.

      But ultimately, the box office is so good that clearly the “backlash” is one of those things that only exists online, in the “real world” no one cares about it.

      On Sat, Jun 9, 2018 at 5:21 AM, dontcallitbollywood wrote:



  4. Okay. I need to vent; i LOVED THE MOVIE but was it real? Nope!! Every single scene taken was upper class. How can someone relate if everything is shown upper?!?!
    Sonam was horrible; her dialogue delivery made me crack up during her emotional screaming to her arranged marriage beau. Ah. she is going to be seen with dulquer in zoya factor. man.
    I loved swara; what a breath of fresh air. muah.
    Kareena was meh but Shikha was so good!!
    My problem was how do youngsters in India relate to this? As the viewing population is predominantly lower middle class.


    • But if you remove the wealth part of it, is the basic plot anything that unusual? 4 friends, one is being pressured by her mother to get married, one is stressed about preparing for her wedding without her mother around and a feud between her father and her uncle, one is ashamed because her marriage broke up and she is back home, and one eloped and is still not reconciled with her father. It’s all about family and weddings, something the same in every household at every level of class. You could take the same basic events and characters and easily downgrade them several steps. Shopgirls and nurses instead of lawyers and international whatevers, a get away to Goa or a similar close by resort, friends coming back home from Bombay and Delhi instead of America and Australia, a property dispute between uncle and father over a small bit of family land, not a luxurious house. They chose to glitz it up, but the bones of the plot are still universal.

      Ki & Ka still bothers me more, because the discussion of “who should work and who should stay home”, that central conflict, is a ridiculously priveleged idea. To have the luxury of making it a decision of preference instead of simply “well, I can get a job now and we need to eat so I guess I am the one who will be working”.


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