This is such a nice song. Of that particular kind of love song that isn’t making big statements either with the lyrics or the visuals, just showing the everyday kind of love. Which makes me hope that the movie as a whole will show us that kind of love too.
Remember my post on love versus arranged marriages? A lot of people didn’t like it, which probably means I could have written it better. But what I was trying to get at is what this song shows. If it is an arranged marriage, the couple isn’t expected to interact that much necessarily. The household is divided along gender lines, the wife spends more time with her mother-in-law than her husband, and the husband spends more time with his father (or his boss at work or his son). You perform your duties owed to your marital role, and don’t worry about love necessarily being a part of it.
This song is about a couple sneakily falling in love. Hiding their partnership in the eyes of the larger family, and even of society. The opening, with the bus, captures it perfectly. Anushka gets on in the ladies section. Varun misses and runs to get on in the male section. And they meet in the middle. They are married, they are traveling together, but society still divides them into male and female and they have to struggle to be able to be together.
And it is also about the promise of self-employment, that the husband and wife can come together by working together, instead of him being sent out of the house while she stays at home. This goes back to the first part of my Nepotism series, explaining how film was a family business, husband and wife and kids all working together, no division of labor between “work” and “home”.
I know Maneesh Sharma is producing and Sharat Katariya is directing, but it’s also a Yash Raj film. And I am thinking about how Rani and Pam Aunty before her have been such visible parts of the fabric of the studio. Simply because they are the wife of the owner, and therefore qualified to be part of everything.
It’s also just a really well done song video. The soft seat dancing of the background characters as Varun and Anushka move in counterpoint is beautiful. And the decision to keep Varun and Anushka in their regular garb, no fancy costumes just for a love song. No fancy make-up either, they look just like they do in the rest of the film (based on the trailer), but in love. And, of course, no physical contact beyond that lovely hand holding right at the end. They are so in synch that they don’t need that.
The lyrics support these ideas, this is a love of one needing the other, not of romantic flowers and beautiful sunsets, but just an every day wish to be together all the time. I’ve known a lot of married couples like that (my parents, for one thing). It’s something that seems to really only happen after marriage, usually after years of marriage. It’s different from the romantic “I just want to be with you all the time” feeling, it’s more of a “I may fight with you, I may ignore you, I may get irritated when you suck on your teeth, but I have lost the ability to feel like myself unless you are around me” kind of feeling.
Oh, and this song and the trailer also make new sense of the title, yes? “Sui Dhaaga” is “needle-thread”. The early discussion was about it as a tale of a tailor and a embroiderer working together, it sounded like the title simply referred to sewing. But now, it looks more and more like a reference to a married partnership. They are needle and thread, nothing without the other.